<p>Today I found out I didn't get selected by my school (only one person gets selected) to go to girls state. Although I do not have a passion for history or government It still hurts, and I feel like a failure. I don't know what to do... I'm so scared about the future. </p>
<p>I feel so hopeless. It still hurts so much to be rejected. It's the worst feeling ever.
Last year I was wait-listed to summer governors school. I applied again this year. </p>
<p>I'm feeling so down right now. It sucks trying your best at everything you do. I stress out so much about even the littlest things. I am a neat freak and perfectionist it can almost seem like OCD when things are not in order. Now I'm feeling down.</p>
<p>Where can I find my lost motivation? I'm starting to give up on looking for something that isn't there.</p>
<p>Also- I’m applying to college next year. I have always had this internal feeling that I won’t get in anywhere. I don’t want to keep this feeling in anymore- Its holding me back. How do I let it go?</p>
<p>Nobody likes to be rejected. I just think you need to take it in stride - it’s a part of life. Maybe they were looking for something else. It doesn’t, however, mean that you’re a failure or you have nothing to offer to other programs/ your future college. </p>
<p>It’s okay to be upset - spend a few days being sad, and then move on! :)</p>
<p>BTW - colleges like people who are confident. If you have no self-esteem, it will come off that way in your apps.</p>
<p>You get what you want, but not what you need…</p>
<p>[cough] Sorry. But look, you’re not going to succeed at everything in your life. You can’t sweat the small things–it’s not about you, not really. It’s about the bunch of cranky people they call a committee being locked in a room and having to decide between you and six other candidates who are starting to blur together.</p>
<p>I exaggerate, but you get the point, I think. The world will not end because you don’t win something. It’s okay. You’re okay.</p>
<p>I hate to say this, but simply don’t set such high standards for yourself. Aiming for the stars is fine and all, but it simply won’t work if you’re unwilling to settle for a slightly closer star than you expected.</p>
<p>If you aren’t passionate about history and government, why would you set your sites on Girl’s State and expect to be selected for that when it would make sense that since only one girl from your school could go, it would be far more likely that the school would pick someone passionate about government?</p>
<p>I agree with others, too, that it’s fine to set high standards, but don’t base your worth on reaching those goals. It’s better to assess yourself by whether you did your best in your application. Everything else is beyond your control.</p>
<p>As long as you have some true safeties and match schools, you’ll get into some colleges.</p>
<p>You are smart enough to see that after high school there is no “Script”. Lots of people who are smart, beautiful, hardworking and connected will . . . have epic failures in their lives. Other folks that seem awful will be showered with opportunities.</p>
<p>So, you work hard and you hope for the best. Read Max Ehrmann’s Desiderata :</p>
<p>You are craving recognition. Try making a difference in the world (in whatever way fits you) and you will find that craving subsides and that your continued hard work on the behalf of others will bring recognition.</p>
<p>Def went to a boys state interview a few weeks ago and said that I wanted to be an engineer, didn’t want to serve in the military, and didn’t believe in God…</p>
<p>Surprisingly enough, I didn’t get picked! :D</p>
<p>The thing about boy’s/girl’s state is you have to show STRONG interest in history and government, and be okay with/slightly religious since they have non-denominational prayer ‘invocation’ type things, and it’s run by a veteran’s group. So uh, respect for the military is huge. xD; </p>
<p>Honestly, I didn’t get in either, but my interviewer got totally lost, and she asked about the book I was reading, and I explained it was about buddhism and interconnectedness, and how I saw that applying to government…that was probably my mistake. </p>
<p>She was impressed I knew my ‘rules’ for flying a flag though- turns out, the group that runs boy’s/girl’s state published those rules, so there you go.</p>
<p>Your thread title sure did grab my attention! (Love that song)</p>
<p>ANYWAY. I think it’s normal to feel this way, I assure you disappointments in life are fleeting. You are young, it might seem like a huge deal to you right now, but you know what, there are ways to get over it/around it. </p>
<p>And I agree with the majority of posters, you yourself stated that you didn’t even have passion for govt or history, so maybe you can tell yourself that at least someone who got it MAY have such burning passion and desire to pursue those subjects? </p>
<p>Try to cheer up, uhh - listening to more Coldplay might help (the more cheery songs that is).</p>
<p>Coldplay songs always make me feel that way…that’s probably your problem.</p>
<p>Seriously though, I know rejection sucks, but i really believe things happen for a reason. At this point in my life, compared to my junior year of high school, I’m at the last school I ever saw myself attending, involved in some of the last things I ever would have imagined. If you don’t love history and government, why are you focusing on history and government things like girl’s state and governor’s school? Because they’re things that get emphasized in terms of looking good to colleges? Lots of things make students appealing to colleges…if every single member of an incoming class did the same four things in high school, it’d be a really boring school to be at. What are you interested in, either in studying or as an outside academic pursuit? What opportunities do you have to pursue them? If you don’t love history and gov, maybe its better you didn’t get girls state…that’s a week of your life you can spend doing what it is you really want to be doing.</p>
<p>First of all, Thanks so much to everyone who replied :)))) It means a lot to me.</p>
<p>And I found out that the girl who did make it is one of my best friends, and I’m happy for her. This summer I am fulfilling my passion for science by applying to an internship at a medical lab. </p>
<p>(Preface: I applied to 16 schools- 3 reaches, 3 matches, 10 safeties)</p>
<p>I got my first acceptance (safety) online, and I was actually really happy/relieved even though I wasn’t over-the-moon about the school. A week later, I got a letter in the mail from another and it was really nice, too. After that, I was pretty much -_- with the rest of my safeties, with the exception of some of the nice merit money I got at a few. </p>
<p>When I got into my #1 (a match), I freaked out! It was 4am and I grinned like crazy for a few minutes before going back to bed. </p>
<p>I got waitlisted at my two other matches, and I was super ****ed about it. </p>
<p>Waitlisted at one reach, felt pretty honored
Rejected from one reach - fairly angry, but then I watched a youtube video of a guy burning his rejection letters- and then I felt tons better.
One more reach rejection to go!</p>
