<p>I think I am going through some serious depression. I am losing so much hair these days, I can barely stay awake and sleep about 17 hours a day in the weekends. I can't even do my homework..I don't have the energy or motivation to do it and I feel so down I sigh every now and then and I don't see any fun in my life..I try to think positive but I can't and suddenly i get these urges that I just want to go jump off somewhere .. I just want to die and suddenly get excited then calm down when thinking about how scary it is..
a lot of the replies on my last thread weere that I go seek for some help in school..I can't
I hate everything about the school.. I am really bad with my counselor and principal.they hate me I hate them back...I really don't want to ask for help to people I despise so much.. Every second I feel like I am screaming top of my lungs inside.. I felt this is getting so bad I googled symptoms of depression and they match mine exactly.. I need help..I really do need help but where can I turn to other than my school? My parents told me to stop contacting them. They said I am not their daughter anymore.. I can't ask them for help..I want to let them know that this is not just the sadness all the seniors get after rejection..this is coming from everywhere -rejection, family issues, and just everything
I am so unhappy I am really so unhappy where can I ask for help other than school?
without even letting the school know?</p>
<p>Your parents do not know how to cope with your behavior–they don’t recognize their child; that’s because depression has overwhelmed you. Do you have a GP (physician)? Make an appointment to see him/her and ask for a referral. You should be on your parents’ health care plan. You really do need help.</p>
<p>Yes I second this: go to see your doctor. If you don’t have a GP, look in the front of your phone book for ‘crisis hotline’ or if that doesn’t work, look for a number you can call here on the list provided at this link:</p>
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<p>I don’t have a doctor
If i want to get one, I have to go through my school since I live in the dorm.
and I hate the idea of letting the school know of my problems.
Is there anyway I can get some help without letting the school know?</p>
<p>Reach out for help at your school. Print out a copy of this thread and your other thread and let the counselors or a teacher read it. Go to the health services center at your school.
You need to reach out to the adults in your school (teachers, dorm leaders, counselors, health services). You can’t sit back silently hoping that someone is going to miraculous come to you and offer help. </p>
<p>Tell someone you need help.</p>
<p>you can call 1-800-273-8255 toll free, 24/7 to talk to someone. I strongly encourage you to do this, especially as you’ve described yourself as wanting to die. Those feelings can be very powerful and it can be important to have someone else on your side to help you resist them. And you should resist them. Most people who survive a suicide attempt are later glad they didn’t succeed. </p>
<p>Good luck to you.</p>
<p>Do you go to church or any other religous or faith-based group? Do you have anyone at your school that you like–a teacher or ANY ADULT? Those are other sources of help. You have already paid for counseling services with your tuition, please give them a chance to help you. If you don’t want to work with them, at least let them refer you to other services you might prefer.
Go to the student health center and ask them where you can get counseling services. It is VERY important that you go & get help NOW. Depression will not go away on its own and it CAN be treated and improved.</p>
<p>If you feel like you are going to hurt or kill yourself, call 911. If you feel like you just need to talk to someone at this point, call one of the hotlines. </p>
<p>You are worth fighting for and don’t listen to anyone who tells you otherwise.</p>
<p>Sometimes we despise people because they tell us things we don’t want to hear. You know you are in trouble – but you are being picky about where you will go to get help. I don’t know that you can afford that luxury right now. When a person is really drowning, it is no time to be snotty about the dreadful hairstyle/laugh/persona of the person holding the lifesaving ring. </p>
<p>You may be resistant to getting help from school because the “help” there may bring up some topics/issues/history that you don’t want to discuss. That’s ok. So DO try some of the phone numbers given above. Also, look in the local phone book. There are often help numbers listed in the front of the phone book. </p>
<p>Intellectually, you know that there are many paths in life – and any number of them would be better than the day to day life you are living right now in January 2010. Where you lack knowledge is HOW you move from where you are to one of those other, happier, paths. Finding the how means you have to talk to some folks. That’s the bottom line. You won’t find a way out until you start talking and start gathering information on HOW to move to something better. </p>
<p>Good luck. We really do hope the depths of winter unfold to a happier spring.</p>
<p>It used to be, long ago, that people wrote things like this to themselves. In a journal maybe. ANd that’s where it stayed. But, when you write this in a forum, you are asking for help, you are asking for others to help you. You are expressing your depression, explaining it, and beginning the process of reaching out. You need to continue to do that. You need to find someone who knows you, who sees you, who can touch you, who can look you in the eyes, and see the pain you are experiencing. That someone may be an RA, a teacher, or a friend. But it’s a start. You need to understand that others hear your pain, can give you advice, but we don’t know you or your circumstances. We can’t be there. We can listen,. and you can listen to us, but you need more than that: you need it to be immediate response. You need someone there with you. Please go find someone to be with you in these times when you need a hug, a soothing hand to hold. Your school has lots of people who can help. But you need to get help. That is more important than keeping your depression a secret.</p>
<p>* My parents told me to stop contacting them. They said I am not their daughter anymore… I can’t ask them for help…I want to let them know that this is not just the sadness all the seniors get after rejection…this is coming from everywhere -rejection, family issues, and just everything
*</p>
<p>What? That sounds odd. Are your parents American? </p>
<p>Don’t worry about talking to someone thru your school. You have privacy rights. The medical people will keep your info private; it won’t get disclosed to the rest of the school.</p>
<p>I agree that the part about your parents sounds odd. Are there other issues here that have not been revealed? Are there possibly substance abuse issues? That’s just totally a guess, based on other families I’ve known well, because (as in the other familiy’s cases) it sounds like your parents just threw up their hands at a loss over what to do next.</p>
<p>If there ARE substance abuse issues, you can find good, free, anonymous help at your local “Anonymous” chapter … Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, etc. You can google them or use an old-fashioned yellow pages.</p>
<p>Whether or not substance abuse is an issue, you also may have free or subsidized counseling clinics nearby – often church-sponsored, who can at least get you through this very bleak time until you are better able to function at the level you want to function – the level you USED to function. And those free or low-cost counseling centers can probably point you in an even better direction once they begin to understand the core issues that are bringing you down. Again, google them or use a good old-fashioned yellow pages. </p>
<p>Good luck, hellocornell! Once you’re as down in the dumps as you’ve found yourself, it’s very, very hard to take the next step. It’s hard to do anything but sleep and slog through life. But PLEASE … do this one tiny thing … just one foot in front of the other for a matter of maybe 30-60 minutes, maybe tomorrow morning(?) searching for some good, free care. Look up the places that you can get to, geographically, and place the calls or write the emails. One productive step WILL lead to another, so just begin. Take that first baby step ASAP … just one foot in front of the other, thinking of nothing else until that first step is behind you. It WILL get better. But you have to make the first move.</p>
<p>Hang in there, baby.</p>
<p>You are not the first person to feel this way their first year in college. Life gets a lot better than this. If you summon up the courage to get help where it is offered, rather than where you would like it to be offered, it will happen a lot quicker.</p>
<p>I had my d respond to her on the other thread and private messaged her with no response. I think we, as parents, need to be concerned. Is there any way for the moderator to find her?</p>
<p>hellocornell is an international student in her senior year at a boarding school.</p>
<p>Sweetie, you MUST get help. You cannot go on in this kind of pain. You deserve better.</p>
<p>The medical staff at your school will keep your medical information confidential. They can help you. (And BTW, if you are actually losing your hair, that and exhaustion can be signs of a thyroid problem.) No matter what it is, you CAN be treated, and you WILL feel better.</p>