<p>I agree with hands off. Pushing usually results in resistence. Instead, think of a way to set her up to become selfmotivated. Nine is very young. However, my D. was only 5 when she got her very first tiny homework in kindergarden. She just started on a competitive swim team and absolutely loved it. When it was time to go to swim practice, I asked her if she completed her homework. She was surprised because she thought that swimming was the most important activity in her life. I told her that school and homework is most important, everything else comes after and we cannot leave for practice until she is done her homework to the best of her ability. I have never repeated it. She is a sophmore in college now, graduted at the top of her class from HS. She was involved with swimming and a lot of other EC’s all thru HS and continues being very busy now. However, academics is always #1.</p>