<p>I got stuck with a roommate who hardly ever leaves the room. She goes out for meals, that's about it. It drives me nuts. I know it's her room too, but there are times when I want to lay in bed and cry or just be alone. I can't even talk on the phone if I'm having a private conversation.</p>
<p>I obviously can't just kick her out. What should I do in these situations? There's not really anywhere else to go where there aren't people around, and sometimes I just need to be in my room.</p>
<p>You can go off campus, to a movie, to a park, to a coffee shop if you need to be alone.
It is too soon in your relationship for you to demand that she vacate the room so you can be alone to cry.
She obviously has not made friends with others yet so be more forgiving about her hogging the room.
She will get on a schedule where you will have blocks of time alone in the room.</p>
<p>Is your campus really so small that there aren’t places for you to go on campus? Deserted parts of the library, woods/wooded areas (if there are any), arboretum (if there is one), greenhouses? Empty classrooms, conference rooms, study nooks? Outskirts of campus? Lounges? The areas behind your dorm? A lockable bathroom in some random department building?</p>
<p>Something I didn’t do until the end of my sophomore year that I wish I had done earlier was explore every building on campus. I discovered exhibits I never knew existed, the perfect relaxation spot (the greenhouses, for me) and the perfect study spot (a study area inside one of the engineering buildings (not my major, so I never would have discovered it otherwise. But honestly the comfiest couches I have ever encountered.)</p>
<p>I agree, you don’t have the authority to ask your roommate to leave. Also, as far as roommates go, one whose worst fault is that she never leaves is a very good roommate. It isn’t normal yet, but having a roommate will eventually become background information. Sooner or later she’s going to start classes and you’ll have those blocks of time to yourself.</p>
<p>In the dorm, I used to find that the best place to be alone was in the shower at night. I could think, cry, or just lose track of time for a little bit. It was tough getting used to a roommate when I had never shared a room before.
I agree with Autumnal; there will be lots of places to find privacy outside your dorm, and once your roomie starts classes, you should find blocks of time during the day as well. Give it a little more time!</p>
<p>You can say I need to masturbate and you need some alone time. Happens all the time.</p>
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<p>I can see that you would want your alone time, but you should have known what you were getting into when you decided to dorm with someone. It means that you both share half the room for the whole year. It means that you have no right to dictate whether or not that person can be in there.
There are usually many quite places on campuses.</p>
<p>I agree, that is one of the hard parts of sharing a room. I was always nervous to break down in my room for fear that my roommate might walk in. I agree with teachandmom, though, and the shower is a wonderful place to cry and get some alone time. People will sometimes take hour-long showers, so staying there for an extended period of time isn’t unusual. Going for night walks (if you feel comfortable walking alone) is also a very good way to get some alone time. I’d walk a couple times around campus at night and cry if I was having difficulty finding some space. Not many people will be wandering campus at night.</p>