Once again, people talk about this issue, and they blame the universities, they blame the Common App, etc. Yet people here are not willing to put any blame on the parents. Yet there are a very large number of parents here on CC who are focused on getting their kids into the highest ranked college that will accept the kid, there are parents who every kid who comes on here to apply to the highest ranking college possible.
I mean, if parents are telling kids “apply to Harvard (Yale, Stanford, etc), take your shot, the worst that can happen is that they will reject you”, you will get 50,000, 60,000, or eventually 100,000 applications to each of these.
That is simple math - tell every one of the kids in the top 5% of their high school that they should send in their application to Harvard, and every kid in the top 10% of their class will do so. The top 10% of high school students is around 300,000 students.
At the same time we, the parents (and the teachers, and the counselors) keep on referring to these most popular colleges as the “tippy tops”, and keep on encouraging students to place admission to these colleges as a true measure of a student’s academic and intellectual quality.
For many or even most, of these students, the inevitable rejection is not an issue. They didn’t really believe that they would be accepted, and they hadn’t built their lives around being accepted. However, there are also the thousands of students who have been encouraged to focus on acceptance to an “elite” colleges as the end game of their entire K-12 education.
So long as the numbers of applicants keep on growing, these thousands of students are going to become increasingly desperate.
However, these 300,000 may not think of Harvard as their do-or-die college, but many are looking at a college which, until 2015 had an acceptance rate of 25% or 30%, like NYU. Since even people who are obsessed with HYPSM hedge their bets, they are also competing for places on the colleges that are a step down on the “prestige scale”. So now colleges like Bowdoin which in 2000 had an acceptance rate of 25%, or UChicago which had the acceptance rate of 40% in 2000, or NYU which had an acceptance rate of 29% acceptance rate in 2000, all have acceptance rates in single digits.
The insanity won’t get better, it will get even worse, since increasing numbers of students will be pulled in. As increasing numbers of colleges further and further down the “prestige scale” are pulled in the game as second, third, and fourth choices, increasing numbers of students will be competing, and increasing numbers of students will be disappointed. Students who are applying to colleges at the “bottom” of the “T-50” are facing acceptance rates in the 20%, and some even lower.
Yes, colleges which are relatively high on this scale are benefitting from it, but they are not who is actually driving it. All colleges are doing is massive advertising. They are not going to high schools and telling each and every students that “you are smart so if you don’t go to a top college, you won’t have a good time, and you won’t be able to find a job that is worthy of you when you graduate”. Colleges are not telling students “you need to get into a top college, otherwise you are not a success”. Colleges are not singing the praises of students who are accepted to “top” colleges, they are not proudly putting these kids’ names on the wall, and not boasting of the number of students from this or that high school who attended these colleges.
Colleges are not the ones who believe that it is worth paying huge sums of money, lying, cheating, or bribing testers and university officials in order to get kids into “elite” colleges. The Varsity Blues parents were willing to break the law, but for every parents who is willing to break the law to get their kids into an “elite” college, there are a hundred parents who think that it is worthwhile doing anything short of breaking the law. For every parents who is doing everything in their power, there are ten who are relentlessly pushing their kids because the parents believe that their kid MUST attend an “elite” college.
Parents are full participants in this insanity. We are not powerless victims of the Universities, the testing companies, and the Common App.
So I think the we are being a bit self-delusional when we are all trying to find anybody else to blame but us.
Of course, the kids themselves play this game, often even if their parents do not. It’s not as though kids listen to their parents all the time, and nothing pleases a teenager as mush as embracing some philosophy that their parents reject. “But DAD, you don’t UNDERSTAND, if I don’t get into Harvard, my life will be RUINED”.
While the colleges are really not big players in this game, high schools are.
First, the same prestige game is playing out in high schools. A quick perusal through the threads about prep schools here on CC reveals the same sort of admissions madness. Second, the more “prestigious” high school benefit immensely from the game, both in admissions to the high schools, and even more so, in college admissions
In fact, I think that these high schools are some of the biggest beneficiaries of college application madness. One of the biggest selling points of the wealthy private high schools is the number of students who they place in “elite” colleges, and one of the biggest sources of donations are from graduates who were placed in such a college.
If you end the game, they lose prestige, they lose one of their biggest selling points, and they lose the donations of grateful alumni who attended “elite” colleges.
The public high schools that serve wealthy communities benefit less, but they still benefit a lot. Their success in placement attracts the wealthy to the school district, which increases the tax base, and thus the amount of money available to the high school. Parents donate for clubs, competitions, sports, and all of those things which parents see as the passports to admissions to an “elite” college.
But again, it really all boils down to the parents. Parents who are desperate to get their kids into an “elite” college are wonderful sources of money, and the high schools are only to happy to encourage them in their beliefs.
In short, college admissions went wrong when parents became major players in college admissions, and when obsession with their kid getting into a prestigious college became something in which a very large number of parents started to engage. It wasn’t only simple prestige. Once, the “prestigious” colleges was the best local college or the state flagship. Now the are super-wealthy private colleges which are highly ranked.
It will only end if and when there are a large enough percent of parents (and kids) who are more interested in fit than prestige. Unfortunately, even among those who think that they only care about fit, a large part of what they think is “fit” is, in fact, “prestige”. “Oh, fit is very important, and, for my kid, high ranking is an important part of fit”.
Bottom line, what’s wrong is the focus on prestige by parents and kids. The way I see it, there are a number of choices:
A. Refuse to play the game, and use other factors besides ranking to determine the best college for your kid,
or,
B. Remain convinced that prestige is extremely important, and accept that this madness is the result of the focus on prestige, and see it as “the price of doing business”,
or, everybody’s favorite,
C. Remain convinced that prestige is extremely important, and blame the common app, the colleges, other parents, the government, the kids, and Social Media for it all. Bonus points for being in denial that you think that prestige is important, but are still use ranking as a major part of your kid’s college decisions. Even more points if you manage to blame something crazy like rock and roll or the weather.