Personally, probably Bowdoin, Bates or Conn – no greek life and communities which can feel less segregated by “money” or background, though Conn can skate close to feeling that way (and in fairness, I have visited Bowdoin recently).
W&L, Trinity, Gettysburg, and Union would be too fratty for me and pre-professional, plus Union is on a trimester, which I wouldn’t enjoy. Smith can be too intensely political. Berea is distinctive, though not for me, and I’m not interested in Pacific NW, so no Whitman.