<p>I'm going to lunch tomorrow with a girl and a movie afterwards. I figured that the guy always pays for the first date (especially since I asked her) but I've heard from a lot of people that you should split the bill. Is this the norm now?</p>
<p>Btw, the only "date" I've ever been on before was one my freshman year of high school, so I don't have much experience in this field, lol.</p>
<p>In general, it is a good idea for the guy to pay for at least the first few dates. Unless she really insists that she pays for herself, you should pay especially since you asked her out. After you have been dating for some time and are more comfortable with each other, then y’all can split the bill.</p>
<p>Definitely pay for the first date. I’m a guy and I pay for every date. But that’s just me. I agree with pramirez about splitting the bill after you are comfortable with each other.</p>
<p>The person who asked must offer to pay unless previously arranged otherwise. You don’t tell her on the date “oh by the way we’re splitting this,” that puts her in a really awkward position, and it’s just good manners for the asker to pay. Even though in this day and age it’s getting much more common for ladies to pay their own way, you never know if she is a more traditional girl and you may embarrass her if she doesn’t have enough because she thought you were paying. If she offers to split it’s up to you whether you want to take her up on it, I think it would be best to just pay for the first one unless she insists and start splitting further on down the road. It just makes a good impression since you never really know how a girl is going to feel about these things until you try it.</p>
<p>Neither. Dine 'N Dash</p>
<p>I would say to definitely offer. If you offer and she then offers to pay, offer one more time. If she resists again, then split it. If she relents and says “well, okay, thanks!” then you’re in the right.</p>
<p>Pay, but whine a lot while whipping out the green. She’ll probably get embarrassed and pay for the both of ya before you can complete the transaction.</p>
<p>It’s the first date, just pay.</p>
<p>Agree with reesezpiecez103</p>
<p>The guy should offers but if the girl insists on splitting then split. Otherwise, be a gentleman and pay</p>
<p>PS: I’m a girl and usually I like to split but I want the guy to at least offer to pay</p>
<p>Whoever asks, pays. And, by the way, she doesn’t “owe” you anything, but to say thank you. You don’t sound like the kind of guy that would expect something in return, but a lot of guys would.</p>
<p>Offer to pay, she’ll say no, offer once more, she’ll say no, then agree to split it.</p>
<p>Make her know you’re not the god damn welfare office.</p>
<p>Seriously though how is prostitution illegal when we (guys) are paying more just to take you (girls) on “dates” without a guaranteed pipe laying session?</p>
<p>Beats me…</p>
<p>I hope she really likes you. I don’t pay for the first 5 dates. Imagine you pay and all of your dating ends. You are there twice as broke as you were before and she gets away with all of those free meals.</p>
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<p>Agree completely.</p>
<p>Pretend that you lost your wallet</p>
<p>I always pay for the first date but not for the reasons you think.</p>
<p>Today, almost every single girl will offer to split the bills. When they offer, say something like We’ll split the next time(but be funny about it). Guaranteeeed 2nd date. It works every time–if there’s chemistry–</p>
<p>if I were a girl, I’d split no matter who asked every time. i would feel worse paying for everything than splitting…</p>
<p>Pay first date. A lot of girls tend to notice subtle things like that.</p>
<p>Yep, she’ll notice it and then exploit it.</p>
<p>Be a gentlemen and pay for lunch and a movie.</p>