<p>Both of my parents want to take me to college, however, they don't want to do it together. My dad wants to drive me up to school, and leave the day after we get there. The drive will take two days. My mom on the other hand wants her and I to fly and ship my things. She also wants to stay a couple days so that way she can attended the parent orientation. Both these plans have some negatives and positives. It would be cheaper yo drive up with my dad than it would be to fly. However, I don't really think I would enjoy having my dad there with me, he's a pretty high strung person, and I know I'd like it if my mom was there with me. The other problem is, I know I'll be able to say goodbye yo my dad without turning into a mess. But if I have to say goodbye toy mom there I'm afraid that I'll start crying and I don't want to be that girl who can't say goodbye to her mom. Any options or third options would be really great. Thanks :)</p>
<p>Tell your parents you can’t decide, and then flip a coin in front of them to see who you will go with.</p>
<p>Emily,</p>
<p>From your post it sounds like the only down side you can come up with about Mom going is the high cost. I’m going to assume that you are not paying the bill so I would let your mom worry about that. Saying bye to mom will be hard- but you will be just fine.</p>
<p>Wow, sorry you have to deal with that tough choice. First, you definitely won’t be the only “that girl” who will be crying as parent(s) leave. (Although there may be more parent crying than student crying.) Logistically, it is probably easier to drive with your dad. Shipping stuff is a pain. You can always cram just one more thing into the car. Can your mom fly in to visit over Labor Day weekend? Could that be option #3?</p>
<p>That is a tough choice! How about if you drive out with your Dad, and your Mom flies out separately and attends the orientation? That way, both of them are happy and with some planning, they don’t have to spend time together if they don’t want to.</p>
<p>How about going out with your mom, and having your dad come in for Parents’ weekend? There will be a lot of stress moving in, etc,. and you might want your more nurturing mom around; especially if you feel like you are going to be trying to keep your dad on an even keel, you don’t need the added stress. Just appreciate that you have two parents who love you and that is what is most important.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about the crying with your mom and what not. Many people get emotional.</p>
<p>I would agree with @stradmom: Tell them that there are many things in your life that you would like them both to attend and you won’t be picking one over the other. What you are thinking is that you would like to drive out with your Dad so you can bring more stuff. You would like your mom to fly out and go to Parent orientation and help you set up your room. You want your dad you help you set up a bank account and whatever. On the last day you will have lunch with one and dinner with the other or they can both come, whatever they want. </p>