@yourmomma re: post # 75. "Why should we pay? " For this scenario, I am assuming “we” means the parents. From my family’s perspective - We decided to have children, they did not ask to be born nor were they forced upon us by society. They are my responsibility. Just like the responsibility that I take on for owning a pet, or my responsibility to be a good steward of the planet earth. It would be irresponsible of me to, upon HS graduation, say “ok that’s it I am done, you are good to go” , that may have been true in the past, that may even currently be true for some families, but, for my family, circumstances today/child rearing practices are such that my kids, IMO, are not quite fully cooked and while they may have all the tools they need to succed, they need some more practice using them before I can responsibly let them loose on/in the world. It is not society’s responsibility to attend to my personal choices, unless I am unable to carry out my responsibilities (yes, I understand that there are a wide range of ways to define unable).
@labegg “We” would mean anyone. It’s more of a “what value is college anyway” question.
But yeah. We are paying for the kid. We had to start our life with school loans and would prefer he didn’t do the same. Although there are days we want to tell him “ok that’s it, we are done, you’re good to go.”
