<p>Hear me out...let me get this straight first. I am an In-the-closet 17 year old male (I like both men and women) and I am rooming with two "aquantances" that I knew from High-school. I mean in high-school sometimes we would hang out and stuff but...yeahhs.
anyways, I have no idea why but I am really starting to get annoyed by every little thing they do.
In highschool I had little to no problem with them (maybe it was because I never lived with them before?). One of my roommates has a very big ego...and he always talks about getting it on everynight. HE looks at the mirror 24/7 admiring his "muscled" body. I mean, once in a while is enough but if you gotta do it everyday then...it just ****es me off. My other roommates has had his "soon-to-be" girlfriend sleeping in our dorm for the past 3 days already. It gets pretty annoying sometimes. & last night, I could not sleep due to the music that they were playing and their god damn singing. They told me to get a sleeping mask and ear plugs so that I can sleep at night...I mean, it is OUR room so why do I have to get them??
I dont disrespect them at all when it comes to their sleep schedules. When I see them sleeping, I would tiptoe myself to my bed...but them, THEY DONT DO DIDDLY SQUAT. They are both best friends with each other so it gets me really mad when they are both up at night just talking so loud when I am the one who has the earliest class in the morning. </p>
<p>Help me...should I switch roommates? I've been on campus for a week already and they are seriously ruining my freshman college experience...</p>
<p>Also, if I come out to them as being a bisexual guy, they wont accept me. I am friends with one of my roommates ex girlfriend and she told me that they both are very homophobic due to their Christian values. </p>
<p>I feel that Im not going to survive this semester...
We signed up for a roommate agreement with our RA for next friday...however I dont even want to room with them anymore. I dont want to do anything that deals with them...I just want to move out.
And despite the fact that I requested them too is a fallback on my part. I am an idiot! I should have went random...</p>
<p>Pleasse..is it too late to swap/change roommates?
Also, if you want to know the school I go to I go to URI.</p>
<p>I’m not intimately familiar with URI’s roommate policies but I do work in res life at another university. It’s never too late to ask for a roommate switch - we do them all through the semester at my university. It’s probably the same at URI as well.</p>
<p>The first thing to do is try the roommate contract. See if you can come to a mediated agreement about study hours, overnight guests, quiet/sleep hours, and other issues that you are having. The personal issues (how much your roommate looks at himself in the mirror) you will just have to deal with, but you can come to agreements about the guests and stuff. Your roommate may be violating the guest policy if his “soon to be girlfriend” stays too many more nights over. The roommate agreement is often also your time to air your grievances so your roommates know how you feel.</p>
<p>AS for the sexuality issue, you have to do what you feel comfortable with. If you feel comfortable, you can discuss with your RA. I supervise RAs and I know that all of my RAs would be very sensitive to that kind of situation and would respect your privacy, but of course, you have to be comfortable with your particular RA. You can also seek out campus resources - perhaps your campus has an office of multicultural affairs with counselors that you can talk to about coming-out issues? You may also be able to seek out a mental health counselor - they talk to students about a wide variety of issues, not just mental disorders. They may be able to help talk you through coming out - or not, if you decide to stay in the closet. Remember that you don’t have to come out and when you do, make sure you are ready.</p>
<p>If after the roommate agreement things still haven’t improved, talk to your RA about the possibility of a transfer.</p>
<p>I think you need to chill. Keep this room and be friendly with your roommates. Stay up later and try to become friends with them by doing things they like…watching football, going to the gym, etc. Also, offer to do their laundry if they’re too busy. </p>
<p>You can also fix this situation if they want to. The ball is not on your side. But, if you do what it takes to be friendly with them, they will make your life a lot easier. And theirs too. </p>
<p>Also, don’t “come out.” No one except Lady Gaga cares about your homo sexual attractions. Try to date a girl. Perhaps double-date with your roommates. Be a man.</p>
<p>“Change yourself so they will accept you”
Yea that sounds like a great year.</p>
<p>Switch. You shouldn’t have to live with people who make you feel uncomfortable and your sexuality is a big part of who you are. Personal issues such as a roommate with a big ego are going to pop up everywhere though; I can almost guarantee you will not find a roommate who you will love 100% of the time.</p>