<p>I’m not intimately familiar with URI’s roommate policies but I do work in res life at another university. It’s never too late to ask for a roommate switch - we do them all through the semester at my university. It’s probably the same at URI as well.</p>
<p>The first thing to do is try the roommate contract. See if you can come to a mediated agreement about study hours, overnight guests, quiet/sleep hours, and other issues that you are having. The personal issues (how much your roommate looks at himself in the mirror) you will just have to deal with, but you can come to agreements about the guests and stuff. Your roommate may be violating the guest policy if his “soon to be girlfriend” stays too many more nights over. The roommate agreement is often also your time to air your grievances so your roommates know how you feel.</p>
<p>AS for the sexuality issue, you have to do what you feel comfortable with. If you feel comfortable, you can discuss with your RA. I supervise RAs and I know that all of my RAs would be very sensitive to that kind of situation and would respect your privacy, but of course, you have to be comfortable with your particular RA. You can also seek out campus resources - perhaps your campus has an office of multicultural affairs with counselors that you can talk to about coming-out issues? You may also be able to seek out a mental health counselor - they talk to students about a wide variety of issues, not just mental disorders. They may be able to help talk you through coming out - or not, if you decide to stay in the closet. Remember that you don’t have to come out and when you do, make sure you are ready.</p>
<p>If after the roommate agreement things still haven’t improved, talk to your RA about the possibility of a transfer.</p>