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<p>Why exactly do you assume that CC parents do much more than this? Because some errant posters assume that? (Because you let other people define for you what the term “involved” means?)</p>
<p>I dont just assume…other parents have written that they do more than what’s necessary. One said that she did fill out her child’s applications. That’s ridiculous. I would never let my parents do that. A student needs to go through all the aspects of preparing for college and applications is an important part.</p>
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<p>In context, I was talking about the college admissions process. I wasn’t referring to anything exogenous. Of course parents shouldn’t do everything their kids ask and nothing they don’t ask. But in the college process, they should.</p>
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<p>One. Not 50, 100, 500, or “most.”</p>
<p>So apparently you do assume, and quite a bit, at that.</p>
<p>I was just trying to talk to all parents. i dont know how many parents have done it and neither do you. being rude is definitely not necessary. I was just trying to describe my experiences and say that i think students should try to work through the process mostly on their own. its okay to have different opinions or the same opinion as me. this website is supposed to be open for anyone to share their college thoughts. i shared mine and its not okay to be rude about what i think</p>
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<p>And in jumping from “your experiences” to assumptions about most parents, you have been quite rude. If you don’t know how many have done it, then stop making assertions. If “one” parent has done it, it’s meaningless to go on about the so-called injury to students in general for the “one” parent who has by your definition been too involved (maybe by that parent’s definition, too, for all I know). </p>
<p>Far more parents on this thread (and on others) have stated how limited their involvement has been, versus those who have stated heavy involvement. Those descriptions have accorded with what you claimed in your earlier post was acceptable to you. You have no data to draw larger conclusions than that, and that is something that your education should have taught you, at the least.</p>
<p>Well, I certainly admire some of you for turning “off” the PC filter long enough to be true to your feelings. I like that. Even if I don’t agree or understand what you’re trying to say…</p>
<p>I think it’s a good first step in the right direction at least ;)</p>
<p>First of all, I am sorry that this thread is now directed as much toward my comments as it is in response to the OP’s question… I guess that’s either my fault, or the fault of those who chose, instead of letting my comments stand on their own, to attack my comments and derail the thread… </p>
<p>I hardly know where to begin, but I’ll briefly respond to OldFort’s post, as I actually have developed some respect for her through these exchanges…</p>
<p>But I’ll do it in a PM. Sorry to dissapoint the vultures that are hovering… ;)</p>
<p>Carry on… :D</p>
<p>John</p>
<p>AnudduhMom, I tried to send you a PM, but your box is full…</p>
<p>John</p>
<p>As college approaches, the parental involvement becomes less and less in our family. They have to learn how to stand on their own two feet and conduct their own business. </p>
<p>We took daughter on college visits, discussed options. She selected the schools to apply to. We have definately guided her through the application process and coached before interviews - but the interview were all hers to manage and conduct (obviously). </p>
<p>This step, however, is too important to let her sink or swim without any guideance. </p>
<p>Why do we do it? Well, I didin’t have any guideance at all from my parents and looking back the results could have been a lot better if they had been involved more. </p>
<p>Also, it is much, much more competitive today than it was 30 years ago and that isn’t just college admissions - I’m talking about job potential. What will happen will happen, but it won’t be because we didn’t do our best to make sure that our children were prepared and advised well.</p>
<p>I can tell you why I am so involved in my daughter’s college application process. With a full load of AP courses (and the homework to go with them), a senior research paper due in Dec. and after school sports, along with other ECs and responsibilities, she is left with almost NO time to do anything else. She did her apps and essays (way too many, and which I was happy to proof read) but I was there to give her any help she needed. I gathered her info and made a list of colleges she was interested in with all their admission dates and requirements. I actually offered to fill in the basic info on her apps for her, but she wanted to do that herself. Also, when she doesn’t get home from after school activities until almost 5:00, when is she suppose to call the admissions offices with questions? I’m happy to do it for her. It was so much easier when I went through this 30 years ago. Remember when senior year was fun?</p>