<p>^ Problem is, no one gives a **** about me. Oh well, I’ve had nothing for 21 years. I’ll live.</p>
<p>You sound really desperate and bitter. Nobody will be attracted to that combination.</p>
<p>Meh. If she’s hot I’d still **** her, desperation and bittness aside. But I don’t know any hot desperate chicks.</p>
<p>^ I’m actually a very kind person in real life. People say this all the time without me asking them. I also don’t reveal very much about myself or complain about anything. I’m just upset here because I would not get away with it anywhere else.</p>
<p>I’m also mad because people tend to use me for one reason or another. Whether it is because they assume I have money (I have a very nice looking house) or because of my attractive family. There were many people who used me to get to my mom or sister.
Seriously. Sometimes I’m afraid of introducing them to people I know because I would probably get ditched for them.</p>
<p>It’s not fair, but life is not fair. My personality basically sucks and every other person is more attractive than me. I have nothing to compensate for my shortcomings. As much as I attempt to be friendly, I always end up staying at home on the weekends. So I guess I should change this to, “How do I get used to being alone?”</p>
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Yeah obviously, but I meant for a real relationship.</p>
<p>Are you really that ugly? Or are you average looking ? College aged people can be superficial. People tend to be harder on themselves then their peers/others. Don’t worry, I’m sure there will be someone that will like you for who you are. There’s gotta be something that works for you (intelligence, humor, wits,etc.) that you can use to your advantage.</p>
<p>^ I don’t know. I just feel that if I had something going for me, I would’ve been recognized for it by now. I’m sorry. I know you mean well.</p>
<p>Maybe it will take some time for you to find yourself–that sounds cliche’d but I hope you know what I mean…</p>
<p>I know this one friend, and she’s at best, just average physical looks. However, this girl <em>can</em> flirt. I’ve never met anyone that’s as vocal and outgoing as she is. I was talking to her once and she mentioned dating, and I realized that if she ever attracted a guy it would be through her personality–not her physical looks. I don’t know you, but I’m sure there’s something that will work for you.</p>
<p>Honestly, and IMO Personality >> Looks Although, looks is what gets the guy talking to you in the first place.</p>
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<p>If a chick’s hot enough I probably still wouldn’t care.</p>
<p>At the OP…what you say makes me sad, I wish you went to my school and I would be your friend, so you wouldn’t have to spend weekends alone, I really mean that :).</p>
<p>But I’m sorta in the same situation, although I do have some options, I just usually get to shy around a guy I like to pursue it as a relationship. I wish I wouldn’t clam up.</p>
<p>the moment i stopped looking for someone, i found them. usually how it works</p>
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<p>Thank you. You made me feel better. :)</p>
<p>Yay, I’m glad you feel better! Well luckily a new semester will be starting soon so maybe that will give you a chance to make new friends. That’s what I’m planning to do…and keep the ones I already have lol. But I guess it’s a matter of being excited for a new environment with new people. I had most of my classes this semester with the same people who also lived in my dorm. lol I’m looking forward to the change of pace.</p>
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<p>Remember, with the exception of a few, everybody else is as self-conscious and inconfident as you are :)</p>
<p>Sounds like you’ve got some issues with confidence and aren’t actively pursuing what you want. You said it yourself: you never approach guys sexually. If you don’t reach out and take what you want you’ll never be in the driver’s seat.</p>
<p>Confidence is a turn on to almost everyone. Having a girl hit on you is a huge ego boost for almost every guy. Lighten up and play the game, get flirty. Go blatantly hit on a guy you like, then back off. Let him think he has to work to get with you.</p>
<p>I’m pretty successful with girls and can be rather selective, but it’s damn hard to resist chasing a girl who eyef***s me from across the room, walks by and touches my arm and disappears into another room, even if I wouldn’t have gone after it otherwise.</p>
<p>I don’t know if my last post came across as sarcastic, but I didn’t mean it to.</p>
<p>I just meant that, as different as people may appear to you, they really are just like you.</p>
<p>Can you cook? If so Im in NY, id let you cook for me. Thats how I judge girls, never on looks or personality, just cooking ability.</p>
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Looks are generally important, but only “extremely important” if you’re planning to go into something where looks are emphasized, such as modelling. I’m guessing your comment “Im sure as hell not having kids with someone who isn’t very hot” was a joke, but if it wasn’t: what makes you think a very hot chick would want you? From the comments you have made on this board, your personality sounds somewhat ugly and if this shows up in your real life, I don’t think many chicks would be attracted regardless of how good-looking you are.</p>
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Just to clarify in case you don’t get it, “genetically gifted” with regards to outward physical attractiveness does not entail being genetically gifted <em>overall</em>. An extremely good-looking man can be extremely dumb, have lousy athletic skills, and suffer from mental disorders like schizophrenia. In this case, their outward physical attractiveness may rank high, but their intelligence, physical abilities and mental health rank low. Sounds like a far cry from someone who is entirely “genetically gifted”.</p>
<p>Also, you seem so sure that you are extremely good-looking, but I am starting to wonder if you have a case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and are trying to convince yourself you have better looks than you actually do (it happens all the time). If you are as good-looking as you say you are, why not show us your picture so we can see how true this is?</p>
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<p>… And, to add onto that list for an additional example, an extremely good-looking man can have lousy social skills. There are plenty of studs who can’t get a girl because they’re simply socially ■■■■■■■■.</p>