<p>^ I would go clubbing, but I don’t know what to wear and I’m not a good dancer. I also can’t drive and probably won’t have enough money to do anything anyway.</p>
<p>Have fun though. I went to a club once and everyone said I did fine.</p>
<p>See, what’s with that negative attitude?</p>
<p>My point was, you need to go out and focus on having fun.</p>
<p>A couple shots of liquor in a bar/club will do the trick.</p>
<p>I got invited to a party via facebook and it’s this week! I also had another invite for a party for less than 20 people and this girl has 300+ friends. I guess people find me interesting after all…</p>
<p>Every person is an interesting person. It’s a matter of being able to express yourself as an interesting person.</p>
<p>You better go to both of them.</p>
<p>I have another question: Did I bring this on myself?</p>
<p>I’m a guy, and I don’t think anyone has discussed it from this angle, so I’ll give it a whirl.</p>
<p>You mentioned you’re pursuing an engineering degree. A lot of the guys may be intimidated by the fact that you are smart and self-sufficient. It’s a better bet to socialize with guys in general degree area or better, because they like being mentally engaged (I say this as being a guy with an engineering degree).</p>
<p>Don’t listen to all the people who say its ‘looks’ and you should run off the to the gym. If you feel you want to have a better appearance, then do it for you, not for someone else. If someone can’t accept you for who you are on the outside, how can they do that on the inside? The answer is they can’t.</p>
<p>Keep a positive attitude and things will work out.</p>
<p>Meh, I can’t find anyone either…I’ve tried for a while since soph year in high school, but at this point I’m throwing in the towel and saying I’m asexual since I’ve only found interest in people who already have girlfriends.</p>
<p>“at this point I’m throwing in the towel and saying I’m asexual”</p>
<p>Yeah, that’s the spirit.</p>
<p>Go see like the first half hour of that movie called “The Ugly Truth”. Maybe it is on youtube or something. Should clear up a lot of things.</p>
<p>Personality and Intellect are important for sustaining a relationship, but honestly, people are not going to find out these things about someone until they spend time with you, which would require them being attracted to you physically in the first place, or just coincidentally bored with nothing better to do or someone more attractive to talk to.</p>
<p>You know when people say “Love at first SIGHT”? You see people’s physical appeal, you can’t see personality from across a dance floor.</p>
<p>Not to hijack this thread or anything, but what about those of us who don’t necessarily want 9s and 10s, but…a certain personality type.</p>
<p>For example, I am VERY attracted to the types of guys like House, Sherlock Holmes, Snape, and that general ilk. ;p But (to a lesser extent obviously, since real life people aren’t movie/book characters with THAT strong of personality traits, usually) the guys I find similar to those personalities aren’t…interested in me! :(</p>
<p>Instead, I’ve gotten creeps as well! Guys like those with mental illnesses, old Mexican men, and fat guys who don’t care that they’re fat asses, or even worse! :(</p>
<p>Now, I’m not pretty at all. I don’t even try to be…not your typical Hollywood chick pretty, anyways. I recently gained a ton (35 lbs :()of weight I’m working on losing starting today, but…usually I’m fairly thin and fairly small (about 5’0") and really shy. Am I doing something wrong that attracts creeps??</p>
<p>How can I know how to appeal to those certain aforementioned personality types for a serious, long-term relationship thing?</p>
<p>my problem is that I always end up liking a guy and later finding out they are taken or my best guy friends whom i would never date ended up falling for me. </p>
<p>Another problem is that i have an androgynous look so basically I am getting hit on by straight girls which is very awkward.Then random gay guys which i find amusing and the really old creepy men (uggh).</p>
<p>“Yeah, that’s the spirit.”</p>
<p>Well, there’s more to it than that. I may have been physically attracted to a guy, but I have no memory of me ever being attracted to someone’s personality…it’s not like I’m overly picky or anything, I’m just not going to put in effort in finding someone because for the most part I really don’t care anymore.</p>
<p>I am the opposite, I can’t be physically attracted to anyone 99.9% of the time unless I am attracted to their personality first.</p>
<p>I think this may be a conditioned response (or a gift from god) after having the figurative crap beat out of me emotionally a few times by handsome a$$holes. I like it!</p>
<p>a positive attitude counts for so so much.</p>
<p>More often than not, the guys will come when you are not actively looking! Believe me, that’s how it works almost ALWAYS! Just be a fun person, enjoy yourself and your friends, and you will find someone who is actually worth spending time with! :)</p>
<p>well maybe you should post a pic of your face, maybe thats the problem. do you have acne?</p>
<p>Why must people keep digging this thread up? let it die already!</p>
<p>Girls all agree that I’m a 10. Some of them just disagree on what grading scale we’re using.</p>
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<p>No. I cleanse my face.</p>
<p>Everything has been going right with my life lately. I don’t give a **** about men anymore because they will **** it up somehow by pretending they give a **** about me when they don’t. I have friends and I’m enjoying school. That’s enough. I’m pushing my luck if my ugly and boring ass wants a decent man too…</p>