<p>Why do parents(unless they share an account with their child) use this website. I dont think its useful at all. Your child is going to college, not you right? Every parent on here is to some degree an overprotective one. It's like going to a guidance counselor appointment without your child. Is the information relayed to him/her? Is he/she too unconcerned at this point so you have to be concerned for him/her? Just something i noticed that i thought as strange.</p>
<p>well, this place is a good place to do some research and gather some information. i doubt most kids really do a lot of research on their own about where to go to college.</p>
<p>if i am paying the bill, then i have a huge interest in helping find a good school for my kids. or finding a good school where my kids can qualify for some scholarships. i can find that kind of info here.</p>
<p>i am NOT a helicopter parent … AT ALL.</p>
<p>You do make a good point about how you paying wants you to get involved, im just saying that even though the parents should be involved, the students should be MUCH more involved.</p>
<p>Many parents try to live their lives through their children.</p>
<p>It is amusing.</p>
<p>My parents would never go on here and I do all the research. And I like it that way, lol. There are some parents which go on here, when the shouldn’t. They find the college and the kid does nothing. That’s not right at all!</p>
<p>Helicopters</p>
<p>maybe they’re bored</p>
<p>Although I agree, we are too hovering, but thank God for this site.</p>
<p>Many of your high school guidance counselors are intent on getting your child into the state flagship university and getting them a free ride there.</p>
<p>We have to do the jobs our GCs should be doing, or don’t have time to do.</p>
<p>Also, if your child is not a STAR at the school, he will not get any assistance in finding out about summer programs, outside scholarships, out of state schools, or even private schools.</p>
<p>There are a few parents on here that are epically helpful. Northstarmom comes to mind. But, of course, there are others.</p>
<p>Consider that they have the one thing uber-competitive high school seniors and college transfer students don’t have; they have loads of experience. Collectively, if it’s happened before, they’ve seen it and analyzed it. They can speak to specific situations from a perspective that the majority of students on this site simply don’t yet have.</p>
<p>Also, in the majority of cases, they are the people paying for your education. Have you ever tried to ask the average high school senior how subsidized and unsubsidized loans work if you join Americorps or Teach for America? Where to get private loans? Etc, etc.</p>
<p>My kids appreciate the time and energy I put into doing the initial legwork. The tell me they appreciate it. Some of their friends have told me they wished their parents were more involved. I enjoy weeding through the 3,000 plus possibilities and narrowing the intial sort. They don’t enjoy doing that. Once the initial sort is done then my part is done unless they ask for help. Every family dynamic is different. Every kid is different. Every parent is different.</p>
<p>HA, have you ever walked into Parents Forum/Parents Cafe? It’s like High School Life Cafe–both deal with day-to-day issues–but for parental-age people :3</p>
<p>1.) I come on here because we live in a small rural area and my children have much higher academic aspirations than the average person graduating from their HS. The kind of information available on here is just not talked about where we live.</p>
<p>2.) Conversely, my children would be content to live in my basement for the first 40 years of their lives and pursue nothing but folly for the whole time appearing only for food and a monthly bath if I did not help them explore their opportunities outside their little universes. Deadlines, researching college options, applications, scholarship opportunities, are all big yawners in my daydreamy children’s minds, they would never get done if I didn’t do a certain degree of hovering.</p>
<p>3.) If I am paying for the balance of what they don’t get scholarships for, you’d better believe I’m going to be involved.</p>
<p>4.) I wish someone (my parents) had been involved AT ALL when I was at the same stage in my life. I would have dreamed bigger and looked harder for the best fit for me instead of settling for the first state flagship that I got accepted to. I would have challenged myself more. Underachievement is epidemic amongst my genius siblings.</p>
<p>5.) And probably the biggest reason, since I had children very young I am so looking forward to life after children while I am still in my early 40’s that I want to make sure I get it right the first time so they won’t come back!</p>
<p>To maintain the fiction that they can influence us and stay connected to us. Many have nothing else going on in their lives. Some hope to undo their mistakes and shortcomings through us. Sad.</p>
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<p>ROTFLMAO Think again.</p>
<p>I agree with Montegut, most of the counselor’s in school try to get all the outstanding students to the best state school. In my school, it is UGA and then GA Tech. They don’t give much options of what is outside of Georgia. I think it is just easier for their job, because they are going to know the most about UGA.</p>
<p>I’m on CC because here I can “talk” to people about the college process. By talking to people here, I can leave my kid alone.</p>
<p>I think it teeters on the helicopter side.</p>
<p>I assume their kids are adults or close to it. Why pay thousands of dollars for something your child can’t bother to properly research themselves? While a parent should do supplemental research on a school/application process, it seems as if some of them are doing all of it and reporting back to kid. </p>
<p>I can’t count the number of “My kid wants to be an X, what should he major in?” threads.</p>
<p>There’s a thin line between being a guide and resource and the aforementioned.</p>
<p>You’ll love this one.</p>
<p>Son said, With the money we have left over when I finish college, Dad and I are going to take a trip to Japan to go to the Iron Chef guy’s restaurant.</p>
<p>Also has said, Why are you so worried about scholarships? You’ve been saving for my college since I was born, right?</p>
<p>Yeah, I’m really going to put a potentially 40K a year decision in his hands.</p>
<p>also, my dad used to use this site
so he could read what i post</p>