<p>wow cool another guy like me =O</p>
<p>but see, i just read his first post…and he was kinda angry…i hope my situation doesn’t escalate to his level…</p>
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<p>You shouldn’t have to give a **** what your brother’s friends’ moms may or may not be thinking. You’ve gotta stop defining yourself based on other people. And your mom should be supporting you, not saying “yeah I agree, you’re a loser, and btw things will only get worse for you.” </p>
<p>You’ve got hearing loss and possibly some social anxiety related issues. Your mom should be taking you to a general doctor to talk about these problems. If she won’t support you, talk to a school guidance counselor.</p>
<p>you are welcome for the advice coolman, please take it- it makes me feel sad to read your unhappy posts. BTW, if any of our advice works post it and telll</p>
<p>dude, some people on these forums have some serious issues. how do they not feel bad for this guy?</p>
<p>Anyway, I’ll give my two cents.</p>
<p>I’m a senior in HS, I would fit into the category of smart but not socially awkward, involved in clubs and sports, leadership positions. So in effect, I’m like 80th percentile in popularity if that makes any sense.</p>
<p>Firstly, the people that make fun of you are actually more insecure than yourself. Now before you brush this off as something a health teacher or psychologist will say, there is still truth to it. I’ve met multiple social climbers who try to put others down to make themselves look tough, and all I do is give them the same attitude back. The ones who try to seem tough and mean are the ones that are most insecure inside. You may say “what if he’s actually just overly confident?” Arrogance does not translate into putting down others, IMO, my friends that are arrogant are the ones that see themselves as “too good to make fun of others” Ironic right? But true.</p>
<p>Now, about the clothes thing. Honestly, I can’t understand why others are putting you down for wanting to look nice. Unless those posters are jealous of your sense of style or are made fun themselves for wearing checkered shirts and cordury pants or something, they have no reason to make fun of you. In fact, judging by your choice of clothes, you SHOULD be fitting into the cooler categories. Ignore others who say you pay too much for clothes; first of all, you already said you don’t; second of all, clothes are a nice investment IMO. It makes you look fresh, build your own confidence, etc etc etc. Maybe some of these posters are like 10 yrs old or something and don’t really think about what they wear yet.</p>
<p>About colleges, obviously im not in yet but I can guaruntee you you will have a much better time. First of all, you’re starting off fresh. No one knows you or has preconceived notions about you. Also, as the other post mentioned, people don’t have time to bully you or anything. Bullies are only in secondary, middle and elementary school. In college, make sure to join a lot of clubs, get involved! You will make tons of friends. Also, consider joining a frat, that will give you a sense of brotherhood.</p>
<p>Take it easy, enjoy your last years of HS, and if you can’t: relish at the fact knowing your four years in college will be soo much better. If you need anything, PM me.</p>
<p>Best Rgds</p>
<p>thank you guys for the advice, i really appreciate it (and sorry, didn’t log on yesterday, lol)</p>
<p>choklit…yeah i guess i shouldnt because i don’t even know who they are, yet they talk crap…and i guess i overexaggerated about my mom. she is just frustrated that this is happeneing to me, and in her anger, she says stuff like this. </p>
<p>and nil desperandum, i think the advice is already working. like after that bad day, i had good days haha…i think my problem is that i have a really bad day about once a month wherein i have to rant haha </p>
<p>and thanks set point, i agree with you too. its just that when they make fun, at that particular moment, i seem to forget that maybe they could be insecure about themselves. for what reason, i don’t know…but whatever bleh.</p>
<p>you’re materialistic. sounds harsh, but keep reading. here’s my philosophy:
you’re materialistic. you are not portraying yourself as yourself. if you wore what you truly wanted to wear then you would not be in this situation. you are upset with the fact people dislike what you wear/who you are trying to be, and you’re trying to change it around so people will like you. stop being someone else. start being who yourself.</p>
<p>uh what? i already explained that the clothes that i listed on here are the ones that people made fun of (on that day). they dont do it anymore though, lol</p>
<p>and i wear those clothes sitll because i feel comfortable in them…i don’t know what you are saying…</p>
<p>Write about your gradual loss of hearing on your personal statement.</p>
<p>to be frank, i don’t even know you, havent ever met you. that is just the impression i received when i read what you typed up. sorry if i offended you.</p>
<p>lol, is this a joke? i can never tell with these weird, self-deprecating threads :|</p>
<p>I honestly was on the same boat as you with the hearing. I’ve actually had hearing aids for quite a while but was scared to put them on. I finally decided to put them on for senior year and it’s been pretty good. I actually can hear what people are saying and it makes it really easy for me to conversate than to make the conversation awkward.</p>
<p>I suggest seeing your doctor for hearing aids. Usually insurance covers it, but mine didn’t. In cases like mine, you can write to the government and they’ll cover you. (Like me!) And these hearing aids are small so they snug into your ear comfortably. </p>
<p>Also your mother is wrong about how college will be worse. You see, you are surrounded by many teens who aren’t quite ‘mature’ and ‘understanding’. In college, the majority of the people are more down to earth than that of highschools since responsibilities change.</p>
<p>That doesn’t mean you’re gonna get a billion friends out of nowhere. The first month or two of college is just tough for everyone since they’re too busy trying to adjust. With your new hearing aids, you can build a new life and make better friends.</p>
<p>If you have any more questions, let me know!
You can do it! :)</p>
<p>hi guys, sorry i havent replied in a while…didn’t come to this site</p>
<p>but thank you so much for your advice…it really helps</p>
<p>thanks nothing4me, and i’m sorry that happened to you. i have to get hearing aids now because my social life is incredibly awkward now…idk how they will treat me when they see it, but i guess i shouldn’t care since i won’t be seeing them again after this year</p>
<p>and ok cool, then i can’t wait for college then</p>
<p>just go with the flow. act like everyone else. the whole “be yourself” bs never worked for anyone</p>