When my friends and I were asked what we did we didn’t say SAHM because the people were usually asking about our careers. We didn’t want to be lumped together as if we were the same. At that time, at least in our area, there were men who insisted on trying to pigeonhole us. The phrase “stay at home mom” usually had a “just” in front of it. Of course, this was in an era when we were told, to our faces, that our male coworkers earned more than we did because they had (or were likely to) have families to support and we were just going to get pregnant and quit.