“I don’t think they are asking because you are a person of color so much as they are asking because they have always asked intrusive questions. Or maybe they have seen few people of color be so wildly successful and want to know the secret.”
“If it’s coming from a place of prejudice that isn’t right and should infuriate you.”
If they are asking because “they have seen few people of color be so wildly successful and want to know the secret”, that sounds like prejudice to me. They have a hard time wrapping their head around a successful POC.