<p>Ok so for the past few days I've hidden my PSAT scores under a huge pile of rubbish because I didn't want to talk to my parents about it. My father basically takes any and every opportunity to talk about SATs/grades whenever he can. When he saw my PSAT score -- which isn't bad since I most likely made NM in CA -- he was ***ed off that I "only" got a 69 in CR. He then wonders why I scored higher on my PSAT than my SAT and comes to the *very logical conclusion that I should have been able to score higher on my SAT and expects me to get 2300+ for the SAT this saturday (which is realistically not happening). </p>
<p>I then argue about how the PSAT doesn't count for anything and that my ECs, or lack of ECs, is what's going to prevent me from getting accepted to college, and not SAT scores. He then says that his coworkers' sons and daughters mostly got 2300+ and still got rejected from many schools. (Argument fail much?) I then use the cliche, but somewhat truthful, argument that college is about opportunity and what you make of it and that IvyLeague school =/= guarenteed millionaire. Obviously, he does not care or listen. After an hour of heated argument, I just give up since I didn't want to argue anymore. I tell him to believe whatever he wants because I don't care what he thinks.</p>
<p>This type of stuff happens on a monthly basis for me. I mean seriously, what the ****? Do any of your parents behave this way? What do you guys do? </p>
<p>I guess the moral of this story is to be grateful if you don't have parents like mine (or worse). If this means nothing to you, well I hope you at least had a good laugh. I'm not trolling btw.</p>
<p>Well, as much as it is a bummer that you get into fights, it’s just because your father wants the best for you. I didnt have this problem because my dad has been in Afghanistan fighting a war for the majority of my high school career. I’d have killed to have my dad home to pressure me and push me to do my best. </p>
<p>I suggest you tell your father that he is pressuring you too much, and you set up compromises that will make both your lives easier. But this is hardly something to use the word hate over…</p>
<p>Put your opinion on whether it’s important or not, aside, and honestly both are important, and tell him you are really trying your best, and try deal with things diplomatically. I don’t think it’s failed argument that top scorers get rejected, you’re both right, and that EC and SAT cannot get by without the other, so compromise and deal with it maturely, :)</p>
<p>This might sound cliche, but even though your dad might be an idiot sometimes, don’t hate him. He doesn’t abuse you or do anything but want you to succeed. You’ll feel bad if he dies and you hated him.</p>
<p>No, i created this username four, maybe five, years ago for some website by randomly pressing keys when i couldn’t think of anything. then i stuck with it.</p>
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Yea… I tried that over the years, and still do. doesn’t work too well. i’ve sort of accepted (and got used to) the fact that he’s not really going to change. if he does, cool, but i honestly don’t really expect it. And yeah, maybe hate is too strong, but I think frustated is too weak. If this was the first time something like this happened, then I agree that hate is too strong.</p>
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true, but I would rather let him know that I <em>insert word that means extremely dislike here</em> him instead of letting him feel like he made me happy by putting unrealistic pressure on me when I’m already pressuring myself. I also have a younger sibling who’s less academically-oriented that i am, and i fear that this cycle will happen again, but even worse the next time around.</p>
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I think there’s a fine line between caring and wanting. imo, I don’t think a 2300-or-bust attitude is really caring. maybe a little, but I think it’s more of a matter of pride.</p>
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<p>and yes, I am aware that some people have parents who don’t care at all about them. that probably sucks more, but it’s not like the ones who pressure you too much are much better.</p>
<p>Just say “**** it” and do what you want.
My mom doesn’t care about my grades as long as I’m passing school enough to be able to get into a half-way decent college. I’m actually extremely self-motivated, because my family is really poor and the few of them who have gone to college have gone to crappy in-school ones.</p>
<p>My dad is the GPA Nazi! I had to make a 4.0/straight As no matter what. No questions asked.</p>
<p>I checked my GPA on College Board during the summer and it came out to be a 3.75 on the state GPA scale. My school has a slightly different GPA scale. It was quite funny when I broke the news to my parents!</p>
<p>It helps that I actually want to make good grades. Although, I think a B every now and again is ok. It is a blessing to have parents, but they can still be a headache.</p>
<p>OP: Uh, it’s not his fault your scores suck. Why shouldn’t he be angry? You scored pretty poorly (under 70(0) lol that’s pretty bad) so it’s your own fault.</p>