<p>This is a problem I had for most of high school except senior year, and a problem I've had ever since graduating high school. I'm now a junior in college, got 3 semesters left, and I really don't have many close friends. It's not like I never talk to anybody and sit in my room all day. I do talk to folks in class, I am very active in a club. I am really, really good at making acquaintances but then the weekend rolls around and nobody ever invites me to go anywhere, nor does anyone ever seem to be able to come over to my place. My closest friends here are probably my roommates and even then sometimes it feels more like it's out of convenience. Out of the five of them, I'm sure only one will maintain any steady contact with me after this year.</p>
<p>Does anybody else find themselves in the same position? I've never been one to want tons of friends, but I'd do anything to just have a few really close friends like I had in high school.</p>
<p>I was that way in high school a lot. Then I got to college and happened to meet some really amazing people - when I think about it, the circumstances of me meeting them were totally random. I think it’s a matter of luck about finding who you click with, and then you have to be proactive enough to really get to know them. I’m surprised how easy it was though, so I just think it’s a matter of being at the right place at the right time.</p>
<p>Also, this is just a thought, and I don’t mean anything by it, but maybe you could try to be more interesting? I’m not insinuating that you’re boring, but if no one really seems to want to make an effort to get to know you, maybe try to learn to be a little more charismatic or interesting-seeming? Develop some interests you can bond with people over, think of some interesting stories about yourself you can tell people, something like that. I don’t know you and you could be the most interesting person ever for all I know, but I’m just thinking that if no one (in theory) wants to spend their free time with you, they might think you’re kind of boring. So just keep putting yourself out there and try to be the kind of person people would want to spend time with.</p>
<p>Maybe so. I like to think I’m a bit interesting at least… idk how one makes themselves more interesting. I’m learning the bass, I’m technically a foreigner… I can’t exactly go skydiving and hunting for bears like The Most Interesting Man In The World with my schedule. I’m also in a student organization like I said. I admit that most of what I do on the weekends involves either drinking or eating or sleeping but there really ain’t anything else to do since I can’t go do anything with anyone.</p>