<p>I would have been extremely resentful had my parents told me where I could and could not attend college. Advice was helpful and we certainly discussed our financial limitations. But the decision was mine.</p>
<p>First place I went, I found myself unhappy at, and I transferred out after a year. Part of the learning process. Ended up at my original second-choice school and did just fine.</p>
<p>I didn’t and still don’t consider that a failure in any way. I gave something a try, found it wanting and looked again. My decision, my responsibility. A better learning experience than some of my classes.</p>
<p>Let your son have that same opportunity. Switching colleges is not the end of the world.</p>