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<p>Ugh. I like theater nerds, and I’m friends with a bunch of them, but at the same time I’m jealous. Well, I have my own insular circles, so…</p>
<p>I don’t get why popularity has to be the sad side of life 
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<p>^ Agreed 10char</p>
<p>BTjunkie, amen!</p>
<p>You get out what you put in. </p>
<p>If you don’t talk to anyone, you can’t expect them to talk to you. If you don’t text/call anyone, you can’t expect to receive texts/calls. If you don’t invite anyone to hang out, you can’t expect them to invite you. </p>
<p>Same thing with girls; you can’t expect them to go out with you or talk to you if you never talk to them or ask them out. And if no one asks you how your weekend or whatever was, it’s because you never ask them how theirs was.</p>
<p>Obviously a few people will just be total tools, but generally people treat you the same way you treat them.</p>
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<p>pro… I am a theater nerd! Lol. They were only “popular” because they were on STS (Remember “Stay classy PCEP”. Oh, BV, how I miss you so.)</p>
<p>As a student council member, I would say that the benefit of seeking out leadership positions, perceived or otherwise, comes from the boost to one’s self esteem and as well as the establishment of positive social skills. Such qualities are the reason why the high school nerd bartering at a robotics competition might grow into a suave millionaire while the snobby cheerleader whom never associated with anyone below her social tier may be doomed to fight an eternal battle with time, trying to regain her youth and the time when she was a coveted by society.</p>
<p>Yes, I agree with “Hurt”. It’s all about the connections.</p>
<p>Coming from a 23 year old in community college, I don’t think the social life in high school relates much to social life in the real world. </p>
<p>Take it with a grain of salt if you wish, I only went for about a year and a half to a regular high school before I did home schooling. However, the reality is that you’re going to spend the majority of your time:</p>
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<li><p>At work. Either for someone else, or on your own. Either way, you will make many casual connections that may or may not blossom into full blown friendships. </p></li>
<li><p>Out in public. It helps if you play sports or go into stuff that helps you meet more people. (church, volunteer work, etc)</p></li>
<li><p>Family. Always important!</p></li>
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<p>There are indeed cliques, there are indeed bottom eaters, etc but there’s no “popular people” society in the real world. </p>
<p>The best advice is don’t worry about it. If you feel you’re low on friends now, you’ll have more later. If you feel like you’re not having good enough interaction with others, then go join a team… that’s a nice thing about high school. </p>
<p>If you don’t see the opportunities, go ask around until you find them. :)</p>
<p>People always confuse “popular” with “prominent”.</p>
<p>Popular seems to mean “well-liked”, but the “popular” kids at school are not necessarily that. In high school, you can be “popular” and widely disliked. I think, then, that instead of calling the cool kids in high school “popular”, we should call them “prominent”. </p>
<p>People who are truly popular, meaning genuinely well-liked, are those who are compassionate, friendly, kind, trustworthy, helpful, etc. When most people think of the “popular” kids, they are not seeing those things. It is possible to be popular and truly well-liked, but it is not common. Much more common is that popular kids in high school are merely “prominent”, often times because of self-promotion.</p>
<p>Well said, spideygirl. The most popular girl in my high school was once sent to the office for being a prima-donna. That said, she was very nice as well as being popular. I always thought it was the people in the top tier who were nice. It was the hangers-on who wwere trying to scratch and claw their way to the top who weren’t as nice.</p>
<p>Popularity shouldn’t be confused with having friends. People who aren’t popular have friends, they just happen to have a lot in common with them. One test of a friend is to imagine yourself being alone with the person. Would it be fun? Would you have things to talk about? Or would the time drag and you would wish you were somewhere else? If the time would fly by and you would still want to spend more time together then that is a friendship that will last.</p>
<p>There is no “popular” in my high school. The people who are well-liked/respected are outgoing, nice, and funny. I love my group of friends and pride myself on being able to get along with mostly everybody, and I don’t feel pressure to fit in with a certain crowd. I guess it’s because in my school the people who are the most well-liked are also the “smart kids.” For example, one of my best friends is gorgeous, sweet, and liked by everyone, but is also the salutatorian and is going to an ivy.</p>
<p>^ Homeschooled?</p>
<p>LOL very funny. But honestly, my school does have its groups but I can’t think of anybody who is particularly unhappy with the friends they have. There is animosity between people sure, and there are people you might stereotype as guido, ghetto, smart-as-hell computer people, etc, but everybody has a niche.</p>
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<p>holyj****aiatt, brilliant</p>