<p>I agree that nerdy guys like moi are better, in that they don’t get obsessed with Sci Fi TV shows and WoW but are still intelligent and have a varied range of interests to boot ;}</p>
<p>^Represent, ma brotha</p>
<p>Yeah before I post I think I need to establish MY definitions of the two words (geek/nerd).
TO ME, a geek is someone savvy in at least one field of knowledge [sports, computers, history, French [pay attention to the last one]), whereas a nerd is more of what others have been talking about (WoW, DnD, socially awkward, “OHHH A GIRL! LEMME SEE!”). I realize others might switch the two, but note the first two words, please x).</p>
<p>Anyway…Yeah I think girls would want to date a GEEKY guy, not necessarily a nerdy guy. No, don’t discount the nerdy ones just because of their habits/social awkwardness. If the former appeals to you, go for it, and the latter can be cured with, guess what, social interaction. But, I feel like geeks already combine that normalness with their eccentric intelligence/knowledge about something. Like, take me for example. I have “normal” conversations with my friends all the time: Sports, girls, music, movies, plans, etc. But, we also have talks about history, science, politics, religion, philosophy, and I point out words of French origin whenever possible!
I feel like outside of the world of geeks/nerds, girls are turned off of the guy (in high school anyway) because all they know is that eccentric side that might…scare them off? Of course, the girls here ARE part of that geek/nerd circle, so this post is pointless xP.</p>
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Oh no, I dated a geek (a nerd by your definition) * because * of his geekyness. He loved movies, art (drawing, much less interpretation), Star Wars, Star Trek, Marvel Comics (“Thor made it into the Avengers??! YES…YES!!” …that was our 3rd date seeing * Iron Man 2 * ), Steampunk, and anime. I realized that, though he had these strange interests, that he was much more likely to be a kind, caring individual. However, I didn’t take into account all of that missed-out-on socialization that he had suffered through (but had then become accustomed to) throughout the years.
But, I gave the geek a chance.
I found out ** not only ** that he was more shallow than a wading pool intellectually (despite doing very well in school), but also that he disliked physical activity/socialization to an extent that we never actually got out and met with people. We never tried new foods; we never did anything but sit in his room and watch movies (something he was completely content with). I’m relatively introverted myself, but he was dysfunctionally introverted; I realized this the first week that we were broken up (he broke up with me, by the way) when I met up with friends, went thrift shopping, and did my own thing. It was truly strange to be back in civilization after 2 months of social stasis (I’m not blaming him - it was my choice to spend time with him…but this is a pitfall I’m pointing out).
Now, we split up for a few more reasons excepting his dislike toward physical activity/socialization with our peers (my parents * loved * him…they are disappointed that we broke up but since he broke it off with me, there’s really no shred of hope for them, lol), dislike toward trying new food/activities, and intellectual discordance. I know he’ll most likely grow up to be completely normal (if not charming), attractive, and well-established in his field. But, at his current state, it’s nearly impossible (at least for me) to have a successful relationship with him.
So my point is this - a girl didn’t date a geek in high school because she was turned-off by his quirks, she didn’t get involved because he was most likely immature or socially closed-off, both things which will be sublimated by time and experience;* no girl <a href=“and%20I%20learned%20this%20the%20hard%20way”>/i</a> can fix a geek despite all of the otherwise wonderful characteristics he might have.
Basically, it was not the fact that he was a * geek/nerd * that made him unappealing to me in the end, it was the byproducts of being a geek/nerd (e.g. many hours spent alone in front of the computer, reading comic books, etc.) that really made the difference for him socially-speaking.
So, to all geeks: Make sure you’re well-rounded!
And to all girls: You can never fix a guy (geek or jerk)!</p>
<p>My boyfriend is a nerd. Obsessed with video games. But he’s cut them down a lot and he is very, very romantic. More romantic than most guys I have ever met or guys that my friends have dated. For our two year anniversary he arranged for me to find six little presents around school and then gave me an XBOX 360 (which I actually really wanted. Hey, the video game nerdness rubs off on you.) and took me out for a dinner and a movie. It was in the middle of midterms, too.</p>
<p>A lot of girls have always been like, if you guys break up, he’s mine. He was socially awkward before we started dating, but after about half a year he has become a very socially adept person. 
Still big on video games, though.</p>
<p>^ you’re lucky to have a good boyfriend =]</p>
<p>The problem with nerds/geeks is that they are waaay too sticky. I mean, most of them don’t really have/had that much pretty girls and girlfriends, so when they get one they like they won’t let you go EVER. Nerds and geeks annoy me cuz every single one I went out with/dated were way too possessive… They’ll text you 20 times a day, e-mail you, call you, give you tons of gifts for no reason at all, make you public love declarations…</p>
<p>Some girls like this sort of treatment a lot. For you I say: go date a nerd if you like your b/f to be in touch 24/7. I hate it. I like to have my own space, be able to do my own stuff, i hate love declarations and i haaaaate to get stupid texts like “how r u? miss u” and “good night, luv u” 10 times a day… it just annoys me so much.
Buuuut…some girls like it.</p>
<p>And i’ll never date a guy who plays WoW again.</p>
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I would not be so quick to dismiss anyone who so much as plays the game, but it is wise to avoid those who play it obsessively, just as it is to avoid obsessive sports-followers.</p>
<p>Hobbithill is <em>spot</em> on. xkcd reference was great.</p>
<p>Vertigo, great last post too. If you’re a geek, learn social skills. I’m speaking from personal experience as I write this. No social skills == shi*ty life. Homo sapiens tend to be gregarious creatures that enjoy congregating in tight-knit groups. This is likely a byproduct of their evolutionary origins on the African plains in small roving tribes. When outcast from said groups, individuals of the human species exhibit symptoms of extreme distress, chronic sadness, and growing desperation to be reintegrated into their clan or tribe. Unfortunately, these symptoms, when demonstrated in a male of the species, are programmed to elicit strong feelings of aversion in females who are properly integrated into the tribe at hand. It is increasingly difficult for a male who finds himself to be socially isolated from his tribe to reintegrate himself, as he begins to identify with his role or lack thereof in society, and his desperation initiates a vicious cycle that identifies him instantly to other humans as an outsider.</p>
<p>Females are genetically programmed to be aroused by confidence, humor, intelligence, good looks, and social status, among other indicators of power and strong survival value. “Geeks” and similar subclasses of humans have a strong proclivity of being severely deficient in these categories, and consequently most are quite unable to bag themselves a female of their species for the purpose of copulation and pair bonding. The only hope of male geeks is to possibly find another like themselves of the opposite gender, which is in most cases not too great a hope at all. And even then, the coupling is doubtful to be as happy a bonding as one in which the members are of a higher social class.</p>
<p>/analysis of human intergender interpersonal relationships</p>
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When I look back on my attraction to him, I realize that he was the kind of guy that would stick around, biologically-speaking, for our potential offspring; he would help provide for them. However, aforementioned drawbacks (from my last post) made him somewhat of a passive aggressive jackass that I couldn’t stand…especially not in that light.<br>
Funny you say that. When he broke up with me he said, “For now, I want somebody like me (presumably a more blatant nerd/geek in female form)…but maybe later I’d want somebody like you.” Yeah, thanks but no thanks. I’m not sticking around.
Anyhow, thanks. I enjoyed reading your analysis too. Actually, looking back on the relationship this way and analyzing it is cathartic for me (as strange as that sounds)…but I digress.
Back to the OP - huzzah geeks.</p>
<p>Okay, not all females are as shallow as you guys are making them out to be! Relationships are all about compromise! Of course I wasn’t happy when my boyfriend would spend whole weekends at a videogame competition, but I dealed and cheered him on through phone calls/text messages. I asked that he only do them once a month, and he agreed because he wanted to spend the time with me more than the video game competition. He rarely does them anymore, but we’re both old enough to stay in a hotel room together and that is actually a preferable thing.</p>
<p>When we went to video game arcades, he would show me the haduken and he goes hiking with me. It’s a great system, but it definitely requires compromise. I enjoy video games (playing against him isn’t that fun, he ALWAYS wins) more than I did before and he enjoys exercising regularly and marathoning TV shows with me. </p>
<p>Not all geeks/nerds get possessive of you. Mine is perfect. The only thing he can improve on really is a higher libido. Otherwise he’s perfect.</p>
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Really?
Whoever said a virgin wrote the * Karma Sutra * was so right because mine was just…very excitable. We have had two vastly different experiences, lol.</p>
<p>Well, when the mood and opportunity strikes, it’s great. But he gets really caught up in the logistics instead of letting the moment be spontaneous or whatever.</p>
<p>I have a really high libido, though. Most guys kind of have to work to catch up to me. I’d totally be happy with trying out a different position every day.</p>
<p>^ …</p>
<p>^^ Dangerous to say on the Internet
Although it is CC</p>
<p>:p This thread has taken a completely different route than the OP intended, I think.
Sorry, sorry! There’s some insight into dating various geeks, though, for ya.</p>
<p>I laugh in the face of danger! ha!</p>
<p>But really, girls aren;t that shallow. They will put up with a lot if you show yourself to be somewhat of a good guy. I dunno… The geek/pretty girl relationships usually only work when the “pretty girl” initiates it. But she has to have an inner geek to her.</p>
<p>Haha wow I have not been on here since I posted that and I’m surprised it is so many pages already. </p>
<p>One of my Trek friends emailed it to me, and I thought CC would appreciate it.</p>
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lol are you kidding me? That list…those are our people…or our boyfriends/ex-boyfriends. Clearly, of all places, CC would be a place to find a common thread of geekyness among users. :p</p>
<p>Also, in response to some other posts, I really don’t think you should change for a relationship.</p>