<p>So I'm not going to get a girlfriend in undergrad.</p>
<p>I was optimistic at the beginning of the term thinking that i'd have to time to go work out at the gym and meet girls. </p>
<p>However, as midterms are quickly approaching i realize that I simply don't have time. </p>
<p>@ aibarr, yes I did try to manage my time but no, it did not work. I even joined a club like you said. To be honest, its looking pretty hopeless. </p>
<p>Am I wrong to place studies ahead of girls? I'm not that talented and in order to maintain my position near the top of the class, I have to spend A LOT of time studying. </p>
<p>So, will it get easier in grad school? I'm thinking that it won't be.</p>
<p>I’m a freshman in undergrad, and have only been in college for about a month, but some common sense makes me thing, if you have been trying for the past 4 years to get a girlfriend, and have failed, it’s probably just not going to work out for you. I see myself being you in 3 years though, so good luck.</p>
<p>LOL. How’d you know what I was going to say?</p>
<p>Also, it’s BARELY OCTOBER. I discovered that the instant I decided to just do what I liked to do, which involved studying engineering and playing piano for fun, I ran into my husband.</p>
<p>(And he was in grad school when I met him, and he’d more or less given up hope on women, and was pretty much a basket case. In time, he has become a smokin’ hot gentleman who knows how to dress, knows how to talk to people with suave panache, and I am the complete envy of all my friends.)</p>
<p>I’m not sure it’ll get easier in grad school, but it’ll get easier in time as you ride out the waves of life… particularly if you take a breath and don’t wig out about it quite so much.</p>
<p>…
With that attitude, no, you’re never going to get a girlfriend.</p>
<p>Girls want confidence. This is confusing to guys because guys (or at least I) don’t necessarily see confidence as an important feature in girls (it’s not necessarily a turn off, but still).</p>
<p>The best way to get a steady girlfriend is to go on lots of dates, and try to get as many repeat dates as you can. When you start having several (at least three) with one girl, then you’re in.</p>
<p>The best way to get dates is to ask. The more you ask, the more dates you will have. THAT BEING SAID, some caveats.
Don’t ask out more than one girl from a given group of girls. If you see two girls as belonging to any group of less than 20 (10 if you’re in a pinch) girls, it’s better to play it safe and pick the one you feel you have the highest chance of success with.
Don’t have asking her out be the first thing you say to her. Engage her in conversation a few times first. As a rough estimate, I’d say talk to the girl casually (outside class, at parties, etc.) at least three times (at least once, if you’re in a pinch) before asking her out.
People say they like creative dates, but don’t buy the hype. Your safest bet is food or a movie. Everybody likes eating and everybody likes some movie. Depending on the girl’s tastes, you might also be safe with a musical performance (concert, symphony, orchestra, etc.) or theater production.</p>
<p>The most important thing to remember is to be confident. Don’t ask her out like you expect her to say no; don’t ask her out like she’d be doing you a favor; and definitely don’t say it’s alright if she has other stuff going on. The line that has always worked for me is something like this:
Hey, you wanna [go see a movie, go get some food, etc.] sometime?</p>
<p>Keep it simple. You don’t need want to tell her a 5-minute story with the punchline being “so you gonna go out with me, or what?” You want her to think that you were just having a good day and decided to give it a whirl.</p>
<p>Having trouble getting those first couple of conversations? Try these lines.
Are you in [insert class name and professor’s name]? What do you think of that guy?
So how did you get suckered into [insert activity here, any activity will do]? By the way, what’s your name?</p>
<p>That should about cover it. Oh, one more thing. Don’t ask anybody out that you’ve known for over 6 months (1 year, if you’re in a pinch). Odds are you’ve been friendzoned if you’ve known each other that long (exception: met a while ago, but not been in close contact with).</p>
<p>This is at least the second topic he has made about getting a girlfriend if I remember correctly. Perhaps you are going about it all wrong. My advice… stop TRYING to get a girlfriend. The relationships that work out the best usually just kind of happen.</p>
<p>girls in engineering - observations
can someone explain girl to me?
how do i get a girlfriend in electrical engineering?
Junior, never had a girlfriend.
making up a girlfriend?
US grad school with best looking girls
In Undergrad: No Dating Experience What to do in college?
dating - “don’t worry, it’ll be okay” or will it?
holding hands or kissing –> which is more difficult?
good looking girl grad students?</p>
<p>And now this one, so that’s… eleven. Eleven threads.</p>
<p>Hence my “don’t wig out about it quite so much.”</p>
<p>Yeah, aibarr, I didn’t go back and count until this morning. When I posted I just remembered the last topic he made. I went and looked at some of those old topics on this same subject and had a good laugh at some of the responses. I just don’t know whether to take this seriously or not.</p>
<p>The can smell a lot of things. It is rather amazing really. My girlfriend often smells things that aren’t really there, and then accuses me to producing those things. Silly women.</p>
<p>Thousands–well more like a couple, can compete to win the affection of a graduate engineering student. Will there be chemistry? Will he make her calculate the activation energy of the chemistry? </p>
<p>ELEVEN threads on this topic?!? Sounds like it’s time for an intervention.</p>
<p>However, I do take umbrage to the advice about making shrines from the stuff you stole from her garbage. First, it’s not stealing if she threw it away - the courts have backed me up on this already (um, not me literally). And second, I maintain that despite all past experience to the contrary, the karmic emanations from said shrine of unrequited devotion just HAVE to overcome the general creepiness of taking the first burgeoning steps to becoming a full-fledged stalker. She’d be sure to think upon finding out about such a display that it was sweet! Or perhaps not.</p>
<p>And no, I didn’t have a girlfriend in college, either (until I returned as an adult with one in tow).</p>
<p>If he wants to get a smart girl then do smart things if she likes studying then ask her to be you’re tutor or be in your study group. </p>
<p>What is he really asking? To me Grad school is after college and after college most girls/boys don’t go back to party or fool around they do it to get a higher education which means he might as well go for some undergrad chicks.</p>