<p>SoCalLove - one question - if someone called the police - and they arrived - did anyone get arrested for possession?? Or for being on someone elses property?? Anyone cited at all by the police - or were you all drug back to school to face the music by the police - what happened when they arrived??</p>
<p>I am not sure about the ethics involved with self-reporting to the university. It's a grey area, as it is prudent to be our own "lawyer" at all times and not self-incriminate. That's why a lot of defendants don't take the stand. One could argue that you will already be humiliated and punished by your school, family, and possibly the justice system. Perhaps, however, there is an obligation inherent in your relationship with your future university to notify them of any changes? </p>
<p>Check out the story of Becca Jannol in Gatekeepers, the book about Wes admissions. She tasted a pot brownie, then turned herself in to Harvard-Westlake hs. She was hugely discriminated against in the admissions process, yet earned warm support from her hs counselor for her honesty and repentance after the mistake (she finally found sympathy and forgiveness at Cornell). Her situation is not exactly like yours, yet at this juncture there are some lessons to take from it. Your only shot at not losing your spot at UW may be your attitude. </p>
<p>You may also want to go in there, if they are going to find out from your final transcript anyway (a switch in schools? Even if the expulsion isn't listed adcoms will probably inquire) with a major plan. Consider what celebs do for damage control (and hopefully you will have sincerity in what you choose to do). Perhaps have an alternate route to suggest other than the college canning you. What if you agreed to enter counseling, and offered to do community service related to drugs and how they impact society? What if you offered, at your family's expense, to submit to a private independent drug testing service throughout your tenure at the university (with the agreement that you would withdraw if caught using again)?</p>
<p>In any case, you do have my sympathy, because you must be under tremendous stress right now. If this is the worse mistake you make in your life, God bless! Truly, anything that doesn't kill you will make you stronger, and the same smart student that the UW accepted will continue to do well in life once you suffer the coming consequences. That is, of course, if you learn from this and in the future take your options and advantages more seriously. This is a cheap lesson if it works, and you can have a better life because of it.</p>
<p>You basically have to tell them. There's no way they won't find out something's up when they don't receive your final letter grades. And you'll be in even deeper by not telling them.</p>
<p>Was it at least good bud?</p>
<p>JeepMOM, you just keep asking questions as if you're enjoying this.</p>
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<p>I'm sure he's been lectured enough and realizes what he did was wrong. He made a mistake, either give him advice or leave him alone.</p>
<p>Wow, getting expelled???</p>
<p>A girl I knew got caught smoking meth IN a school bathroom...and was only suspended for a week. She came back, but eventually dropped out anyways.</p>
<p>Haha, ok now that seems like something you really SHOULD be expelled for.</p>
<p>AM17 - if the OP had spelled it out the first time - instead of lagging it along - read up and you will see posts that really have no bearing on what the actual situation the OP finally described.</p>
<p>Sure the OP knows what they have done - and the outcome is appropriate - sadly so :( This may cost the OP an opportunity - or the college they have chosen to go to may go lightly. But when one does something so stupid - it is really difficult to be very compassionate - especially at this stage of the game. It is called using ones judgement.</p>
<p>JeepMOM, quite frankly your age shows, whenever I ever hear someone say "smoke" 99% of the time they're talking about pot. </p>
<p>"3 Strikes and you are OUT!! You deserved to be suspended!!" </p>
<p>That was hugely inappropriate and rude from someone who is supposed to be somewhat mature at least. Also, rather inaccurate, considering ANYTHING you smoke (unless you're rather nuts and decide to smoke fruit loops ;)) will be a drug, so actually only 2 strikes, SAFE! :)</p>
<p>That is ********, if they expel you over that, well I don't even know. Bull.</p>
<p>Charisma - it is all about owning up to taking responsibility for ones actions - do something not too bright - and you will pay a price for it. I am sure you have heard that lecture from adults in your life. It is really true.</p>
<p>So maybe this kid needs to take some responsibility for their actions and pay the piper - chaulk it up in the experience box and move on - hopefully with better insight on being a responsible adult in this world - cuz next time the punishment may be even worse.</p>
<p>Doing something like this OP did - not only effects the OP - but his/her family as well. So take their advice for a change and act like an adult - going off to college - hopefully in the fall - and don't make the same mistake again.</p>
<p>I don't really think the punishment is fair, I do think he has to own up to what he did. But for a little bit of pot, he can get expelled and get kicked out of his dream college.</p>
<p>When did I ever state that he shouldn't take responsibility for his actions? All I said is that an ADULT shouldn't be acting like a kid and saying stuff like "3 Strikes and you are OUT!! You deserved to be suspended!!" while simultaneously expecting a kid to act like an adult. Your (earlier) post wasn't a lecture; it was gloating at the fact that he was punished.</p>
<p>^^as he should be.</p>
<p>this wasn't a"kid" , this is a young man going off to college, skipping school breaking into a house (though "invited"), smoking pot, a week or two before graduation</p>
<p>to say poor judgement is an understatement</p>
<p>any one of the three activities was bad enough...</p>
<p>what are people thinking? risking everything instead of waiting until at least after school, or until that diploma is in the hand</p>
<p>First of all, he did not break into any house, unless you count standing in someones backyard breaking and entering. Skipping school as a senior is not a big deal, and pot is not really that big of a deal either. Your kids have probably done it or something illegal at one time or another. </p>
<p>Could you get a lawyer and fight this OP? Why didn't you hide the pot when the cops came, why not run? You guys may think that is stupid, but if he didn't get caught, then he wouldn't be posting right now.</p>
<p>since it took him a few posts to tell the whole story, I wonder....</p>
<p>And it was not HIS house, nor his FREINDS house, it was a grandma's house, they left school during class</p>
<p>And obviouslly it WAS a big deal, and you don't think it was foolish to take such a risk during school time </p>
<p>What he couldn't wait till after school to get stoned?</p>
<p>Seriouslly, I ask that question, because if he couldn't, then there is more of a problem</p>
<p>I don't have an issue with pot, per se</p>
<p>And I can bet you this wasn't the first time this young man showed such poor judgement that he has risked his future</p>
<p>again, why not wait?</p>
<p>And when you do illegal things, or things that draw attention so the cops are called, you take the gamble of getting busted, fair or not</p>
<p>In my neighborhood, the cops wait around corners just to catch people doing rolling stops, I am not stupid enough to do rolling stops in my neighboorhood</p>
<p>Charisma - smoking ANYTHING on school property is usually against the law these days.</p>
<p>And as an FYI - in case some don't know- arrest and conviction on a DRUG related charge will affect ones Federal Financial Aid - so keep that in mind when you consider that ''smoking'' and being caught should be so minor an offense - it's not - being in possession can really put college bound students in a real financial bind.</p>
<p>A suspension of any kind can be a difficult thing to deal with - one way or the other colleges really do frown on them - and they usually will have to be explained - which means the student will have no choice but to take responsibility for what they have done - and pay a price for it. It is really too bad that the OP didn't think of what the result of his actions could mean to his future and the possibility that it really could effect the college bound student negatively.</p>
<p>Why don't we get to the right issue here. The guy can't even write a sentence that makes sense.</p>
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