Clearly, the OP doesn’t give two hoots about what anyone is saying here. He and his kid made choices. He made the choice not to,save, to live in a pricey place, etc…and to complain about it.
His daughter made the choice to be overloaded with ECs. For the record…unless one of those ECs is Olympic athlete or the like, being overloaded with them is not going to tip the scales in her favor for college admissions if she isn’t otherwise a qualified applicant.
And the OP has said more than once…he CAN pay, he doesn’t WANT to pay.
But if I were a betting woman, I bet he would change his tune if his daughter said she was majoring in engineering or finance.
To be honest, I can’t see where this thread is going. It’s helping no one…including the OP who didn’t come here to hear other’s opinions.