You are considering two very different experiences. W&M, which is in-state to me and was in my sons’ top 2 last year (along with UVA) is a great public ivy of around 5,000-6,000 undergrads. The stereotype, which holds some truth, is that a typical W&M student is bright, motivated, intense and a bit quirky. The Greek system is popular but not overwhelming. W&M has Division 1 sports, but they aren’t a big focus on campus. And campus life is pretty much focused on campus — only so many times you can visit Colonial Williamsburg, Busch Gardens, and go out for pancakes. But campus life is thriving: club sports, improv groups, academic clubs, acapella, etc.
Like UVA (which my guys ultimately selected), UW offers more students, more clubs and activities, and a broader “campus” in that there’s more to do outside of the school. Also, Wisconsin has a thriving D1 sports culture if that’s important to you. I really loved attending football and basketball games in college and law school (Arizona and UVA), and my sons have very much enjoyed UVA football and UVA’s national championship run this year.
Three other significant differences come to mind. First, most W&M students live on campus all four years. Is that true for Wisconsin? My sons rented a house next year and they are very much looking forward to more privacy, quiet, a real kitchen, and sharing a bathroom with only one other student. Second, weather. Definitely far less snowfall and bitter cold at W&M. Finally, one of my sons who was very attracted to W&M, and turned off by the stereotype of UVA’s purported party and Greek culture, ended up picking UVA because he was concerned that W&M was needlessly intense academically, as current students told him that some felt driven to compete with their classmates, were not collaborative, and that this caused some undue anxiety. An intense kid himself, he was concerned he, too, might board the anxiety train.
But you have great choices! To check out the student vibe, make sure you read the student online papers, check out the schools’ lists of clubs and activities, and google the schools’ “Top Ten” and “best” postings. (Top Ten experiences at …, best things about …, best classes at …, best professors at …, things to do before graduating from …). These kinds of lists will give you an idea of what current students love and admire about their schools.
And take heart! My sons are loving UVA — great grades, wonderful connections with professors, terrific friends, very involved in clubs, sports and activities —but I’m convinced they would have enjoyed W&M or any of the other colleges to which they were admitted. 90% of a good college experience is student readiness. Do you go to your first week dorm and university welcome activities and meet people? Do you go to the activities fair, check out club meetings, and pick 2-3 and get involved? Do you speak up in class, go to office hours, and find mentors in areas of interest? Do you go to see university speakers, concerts, sporting events, debates, etc? Do you explore the greater community (at UVA, hiking, apple-picking, concerts and festivals on the Downtown Mall, etc). Obviously, you are in control of those aspects of your experience.
Good luck!!!