<p>I echo Frazzled1’s sentiments. I hate to see W&M lose a qualified student, but if your son’s ultimate goal is to attend law school, then his LSAT and GPA are going to be far more important than the name of his undergraduate institution. In my experience, law school admissions are much less holistic than the undergrad process. My evidence is anecdotal: I went to W&M, had a good GPA and good LSAT score, and got into good law schools. My brother attended our home state’s flagship school, had an excellent GPA and excellent LSAT score, and got into excellent law schools (top 20). Those schools were also very, very expensive, so it was a good thing he had no undergraduate debt. </p>
<p>But, if I may ask, how much of this decision is his? If he decided that the debt was worth it (“it” being whatever unquantifiable benefits that going to W&M would confer to him), would you be on board, or, since you’d then be on the hook for a significant amount, too, would you talk him out of it? If he went to UD, would he be able to overcome the feeling that he’s settling? Although I think we too often mythologize the college experience, giving it more credit in shaping lives or finding happiness than it may be due, to select a college based solely on professional expediency seems a bit reductive, and as you mentioned, your son really wants to go to W&M and knows it would be a good fit. And in four years, he may have an entirely different set of post-graduate plans.</p>
<p>Financially, objectively, I think staying in-state is a no-brainer. When it comes to the squishy, qualitative factors, it may not be so cut and dry. My brother, along with many of my high school friends, stayed home, did the honors program at our state university, and they all ended up happy, socialized, and holding diplomas from prestigious graduate programs. But unlike your son, they didn’t care about leaving home. When I was in your son’s shoes, you couldn’t put a price on that, so I completely empathize with his dilemma.</p>
<p>Is there an amount of debt that you and he would consider acceptable? What if W&M could come up with, say, another $4000 (or whatever) each year? If you haven’t already, it probably wouldn’t hurt to call up the school and say something to the effect of, if you can find this much more aid, we’ll send the deposit right now, and if you can’t, we’re going with UD and take us off the wait list. It’s a hard bargain, but worth a shot if you’re ready to walk away. </p>
<p>Best of luck with the decision. Whatever the verdict, I hope its significance diminishes with time.</p>