<p>I can just guarantee you that, at Bryn Mawr at least, you would find plenty of people who would match your interests. We have very active groups that seem to cater to what you like, High Table and Doublestar, and both of them have parties very much like the ones you describe, annnd they have active male interaction. Unlike high school, college really does have something for everyone, and I would think that such parties would be more popular at a women’s college than at a large co-ed university because we have a higher percentage of people who are interested in that sort of thing. I wouldn’t rule it out.
For example, if you’re into d&d, there’s a really active BiCo (Bryn Mawr/Haverford) group, and that’s where one of my friends (she’s like you, doesn’t like to go to parties, doesn’t see the point in drinking, etc) met her current boyfriend. There are plenty of groups like that where the interaction won’t be based on guys just coming to girl’s colleges to hook up or something like that.
And at Bryn Mawr, the latter happens hardly ever. Since there are guys in classes and guys in the dining halls and guys at all social events, clubs, etc, they come to parties not to seek out drunk girls, but because they are a strong part of our community and have friends on our campus.
Also, you mention Barnard as an ideal consortium, but rule out BMC/Haverford. I wonder why this is- Columbia is co-ed and Barnard girls seem to be seen by Columbia the same way that Bryn Mawr girls are by Haverford- they’re great to have around, but there are also girls at Columbia/Haverford. </p>
<p>tl;dr- I wouldn’t rule some of the Seven Sisters out yet.</p>