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<p>My son got into the school of his choice ED, ( a top five LAC) and then proceeded to stop working very hard in school. His grades have slipped this last semester, but he has assured me that they will go up with his final exams which count for half the year's grade. The exams are less than two weeks away, and while he is doing some studying, I am afraid he is not studying hard enough to bring his grades up. I'm afraid his acceptance will be recinded if he goes from straight As to Bs. Anyone with any first hand knowledge in this area?</p>

<p>I've read here that you really only have your acceptance rescinded if you get muchos Cs or worse.</p>

<p>Thanks rachel212. This has become a sore topic with my son. I don't want to argue with him when he is so close to going away to college and our time to enjoy being with him is limited, but I also do not want to see him throw away everything he has worked for. I have read conflicting posts on other threads. Some say that he would have to drop drastically in order to be rescinded while others say that the more selective the college the more stringent they are about final grades. Anyyone else with any insights?</p>

<p>From everything I have read here, it would appear that it differs from school to school as to what constitutes a "drop." I do know that last year, there was a warning in Amherst's letter about senioritis and keeping grades up because they have had to rescind acceptances in the past.</p>

<p>Here's what I would do: Email or call his school and ask what the standards are for rescinding. Then tell him. Or have him call or email.</p>

<p>I can understand your concern. But while you're reading him the riot act about his grades, also remind him that whatever else he does or doesn't do, he must not cheat. </p>

<p>Our high school's college counselor has hammered this home over and over and yet every year apparently at least one kid cracks under the pressure and thinks he/she will be the one to get away with cheating. A college may give some latitude for senioritis, but they will not tolerate cheating.</p>

<p>Hope your son does well on his finals!</p>

<p>Thanks all. </p>

<p>Right now his grades have dropped from all A's to half A's half B's. I don't think his finals will make them worse; I hope they will make them a bit better, I hope that the college does give him some leeway for senioritis as long as he doesn't drop down to C's.</p>

<p>You bring up a good point about cheating. I don't think my son would consider it because he is pretty much "by the book", and his school is extremely strict, but then again, we should never say never! </p>

<p>Does anyone know of anyone who did in fact have their acceptance rescinded, and if so, what were the circumstances?</p>

<p>My D worked extremely hard through March. Then there was a long wait for acceptances and a final decision. She had a real bad case of senioritis and from what I heard, this was a common problem. We even had one science teacher tell us in the Fall that he tried to complete most of the academics by January. The rest of the year was labs and "review." My D continued to work part time and goof off throughout the summer. I would not worry about some B grades.<br>
Slipping down to C's could be a problem.</p>

<p>My good friend's wise mother told her when she was lamenting "how do you ever let your kids go"--that "they get you ready..." Senioritis is one of the ways. I was just deleting some emails I had from last spring (Son was an 05 grad) where I was fretting about just these issues. My son had a serious bout of senioritis and grades even in his best subject slipped way down. I chided, he snarled, I worried, he seemed to do little. End result: Grades were just fine. He pulled it all off at the end. Really, at this stage, we really do have to really start trusting them......and they really do have to start living with their consequences, even the real ones. So I guess my advice is trust him....Lean on your friends and fellow parents. Count the days 'til its over. It's a big transition but like labor and delivery, you get through it...</p>

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<p>LOL! That is so true! Last year I wanted to throw my '05 grad out early. He was so awful about everything. Labor and deliver was just exactly what it was like....even to include the crying and screaming by me! So now when he comes home he is perfectly delightful. He is working really hard in school and frets about his grades. I don't even have to fret, because he's doing it!</p>

<p>Chammom, I wouldn't completely ease up on the pressure. It's only another couple of weeks, and after that you can be friends again until he leaves.</p>

<p>Thanks all. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Just a few more weeks. I know that when he is in college, I won't be there to nag him, but I won't have to witness him goofing off either! It seems the consensus that dropping to B's probably won't cause his acceptance to be rescinded, so I'm trying to relax about it. I think that the Early Decision was great, except that once he was in it was hard to keep him focused on the rest of the year. </p>

<p>It helps to hear of other D's and S's that slipped somewhat and are now happily doing well in college. Thanks for sharing your stories!</p>

<p><< but I won't have to witness him goofing off either!>></p>

<p>That's the BEST part of having S gone this year! ha-ha!</p>

<p>My son is doing the "no studying" thing. I think it's his way of letting me know he's now kind of the boss. I hate to see his gradepoint go down but it really doesn't matter. We just hope he can pump up the intensity next fall when it's needed.</p>