<p>I agree that talk of transferring is toooo premature and probably not productive.</p>
<p>A couple of years ago, a Bama frosh posted early in the semester that he was transferring. He did transfer and guess what, he soon was posting that he hated his new school, too, and wanted to transfer again.</p>
<p>Some kids are more outgoing and can find new friends immediately. Some kids are more shy/reserved and (for some reason) think that others are supposed to make the effort and first move. Some kids went thru K-12 with the same crowd and have lost the art of making new friends.</p>
<p>My H experienced a bit of that problem…his K-12 pals were his neighbors from birth…he had no skills on how to make “new friends”. He’d always had friends, essentially by default of the neighborhood, so he hadn’t learned how to “make new connections.” He was used to “traveling with the neighborhood crowd” so to speak…doing whatever the crowd was doing that week/weekend. Joining the same sports, etc. Going off to college was shocking because he didn’t have his “peeps” around.</p>
<p>One key to making new friends is…don’t walk around with your eyes to the ground, make EYE CONTACT with others, have a FRIENDLY default expression on your face, and smile when you come upon others and say a quick “hey” (the southern equivalent of “hi”). My sister (a therapist) swears that some people have an unwelcoming “default expression” on their faces which can make them seem unappoachable.</p>