<p>SevenDad,
I probably can understand why you had this concern. If incidents were happened again and again and the trust relationship is over between school and family. then it is a dealbreaker no matter bs, ds or ps.
I’d like to share my experiences. The magnet public school in our area is the only school provided advanced and AG program. However, This magnet school student body consist of kids from nieghborhood community and county-wide AG/GT students. The past 2 years, it had more than 5 lockdown situations and bad incidents again and again. the principle and school board knew the fact and try to enforce the rule, discipline but simply can’t find a way to avoid things occurred again. They just can not control student body.
Our area day schools have good academic reputation but also notorious for party, drinking, driving incident. It is not always been reported in media but parents all knew the fact. Day school seldom expel students unless they seriously violate school rules.
Now, back to top BS. I heard incidents occurred every year but I also heard school’s reaction for those incidents. I heard Andover expelled certain students last year due to substance use. Exeter enforced out of town rule for boarders this year that parent has to fax agreement with signature.
I guess if my kid’s bs school won’t handle incidents well (even if my kid is the student caused the incident) and the trust relationship does not exist anymore, I’ll pull back my d, either homeschool her or move somewhere else to find a school I trust.</p>