<p>My guidance counselor and I have been on good terms...but recently we had a discussion where i think we lost eachother's trust, but I am not too sure...we seemed to be on good terms by the end of the meeting but she may still feel pretty negative about me. I have no idea what to think. For all I know, she hates my guts now and wants me to go to a bad college, or no college at all. Somebody told me not to worry because guidance counselors usually want to make the school look good and write the best recomendation letters they can. Especially in my high school, which is one of the highest rated high schools in the country. Would they every write a bad recomendation letter for college?</p>
<p>Your counselor might not write a bad recommendation, but she might not write the best recommendation about you. </p>
<p>And I don't really agree with what your friend said.</p>
<p>dude you're lucky u know your guidance counselor. i go to one of the top public schools in the nation and i dont know my guidance counselor. i have yet to meet him.</p>
<p>I would say they write an honest one about the student, feelings aside. That's my experience at least. It's not their job to judge you but rather to make an objective observation of you caliber as a student. This given, she may not give you a "best student I have ever worked with," but she wont try to make you go to a "bad" college.
Just try to reconcile your differences before she writes your rec's (apologize if necessary) etc. Try to show her the good in you (pardon the cliche).</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>the thing is, its not something between me and her, its something about another issue entirely which she doesnt seem to be fond of. i dont think it was really a big deal but she bugged out big time about it. she seemed to be happier with me when i told her the truth, but i must admit that i did beat around the bush. anyway, i have no idea what to think. I don't want to explain what happened in detail because it's a little personal to put onto this public website. but if you want to know feel free to send me a private message and let me know what you think</p>
<p>Would it be hard to go to her and say "I am a bit worried, last time we met, I thought things went badly... I dont want you to think poorly of me. Of course, this has to do with my college recs, but also because I always thought that up until then we had a good relationship and now I feel bad..."</p>
<p>People have feelings they are not even aware of, so her feelings towards you might have changed and it will show up in subtle ways on the rec. By talking to her, it might make her aware of this, and she will be more careful.</p>