Would these be appropriate scenarios?

College Life
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So yea, me and that famous TA from another one of my posts have really hit it off. She really seems to like me as a student and invited me to take her first course she’s going to teach as a real professor at my school, next semester, which I WILL take!!!

I spoke about her in positive ways with my parents because I also help her around school a lot when I do not have classes, including weekends, for free. I do not mind doing this because I enjoy her too as a person, and my parents always want to know where I am.

Now, since I told my parents that this TA and soon to be my professor knows my household’s neighborhood for its good food, my parents suggested that this TA and soon to be my professor go out for a meal together…but just how appropriate is it for an undergrad to go out for a meal with a TA and soon to be professor? Shall I at least wait until I’m in graduate school? Both of my parents and I were questioning this scenario last night at dinner when they told me this.

Also, they are encouraged me (and I want to go there too!) to go to Brazil with her because that’s where she’s from and its a beautiful country. I know this should DEFINITELY wait until AT LEAST I’m not her student anymore, but would it be appropriate to go to Brazil with her or meet her there even as a former student and stay for a week or two? Can formers be considered as ‘‘friends’’ here?

What do you think?

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I’d say at least wait until after this TA isn’t your professor for both of these. While I’m sure you’re not trying to gain special favors, you don’t want anyone else to misconstrue it.

I personally don’t see anything wrong with it, but I’m sure it’s only a matter of time before you get responses that do.

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Exactly. That’s why I’m asking for people’s opinions. I totally see how this would be weird and inappropriate, so I’m trying to get opinions before asking her one day and making things awkward. Half of me is with you and not seeing much of it, but other half is a bit ??? about it.

And no, I’m not trying to gain special favors and never would with anyone. I work hard for my grades and I understand how it would be unfair if she graded me higher, if she even did so.