<p>I have no idea what I would do but my first thoughts were similar to NYMomof2-- I suspect this was not the first indication that these young adults were on the wrong path. None of my kids show signs of greed-- and all the grown ones have spent many, many hours helping others. There are some wonderful young people out there, but there are a LOT who are self-absorbed and shallow. The best time to help any of them was probably years ago, <em>before</em> they hurt so many people. At that time, I would have offered counseling and NOT paid for fancy schools. If I thought my kids were heartless, I would want them close to home where I could help. Some things are much more important than an Ivy sheepskin.</p>
<p>I know a man whose son was having lots of trouble about 3 years back (drinking at teen parties, taking the car out without a license). I suggested counseling and the dad told me it was too expensive. Dad now spends his days trying to keep track of his now-drug-abusing son. He has spent way more than the counseling $ on lawyers.</p>