<p>I know that we all know a person who got pregnant at a young age, and if you don't, then yippy for you, you live in a bubble...</p>
<p>Anyways, </p>
<p>When it comes to dating interest: what are your thoughts on a single parent? Are kids a red flag for you? Anybody had experience with this?</p>
<p>I ask, because a girl I know is a single parent and is really having a tough time finding "good guys" who want to spend more than just casual time with her... is it primarily guys who run away from single moms, or are girls weary of single dads too?</p>
<p>well assuming your talking about high school/college age kids, I don't think its unreasonable at all that people would want to get involved with someone who has a child. Most kids at this age do not want kids, and many take the proper precautions to ensure it doesnt happen, so I wouldnt blame a guy who doesnt want to get committed with a girl who has a baby, because then he might be expected to take some responsibility with the child.</p>
<p>I also imagine single dads at this age are MUCH rarer than single moms.</p>
<p>I clearly "live in a bubble" since I do not personally know anyone (or even a friend of anyone) who is in this situation, so everything I said is pure speculation.</p>
<p>great analogy, too bad you live in a bubble. No, I'm not just talking high school/college age kids, I'm asking this as a question, period. Mostly for those who have a little experience, and don't live in bubbles. ;)</p>
<p>I will not date a guy at this age who has a child. Reasons: </p>
<p>1.) I've never had a boyfriend. I'd want my first boyfriend to be close to the same level as I am in terms of experience. Who'd want to enter their first relationship with a guy who's raising a child? That's too much to handle. </p>
<p>2.) I'd be afraid of friends' and family's opinions. What would they think if I got involved with a guy who has a three year old child? It's not that they are judgemental, but they would be worried for me. The guys who have a child in the first place doesn't show a lot of character. They are considered immature and irresponsible, not having their priorities straight. And, as a parent, their whole revolves around their kids. </p>
<p>3.) As the stereotype goes, majority of male single parents are absentee fathers, leaving their babies' mothers to raise their children. I find that to be of low character and would NEVER get involved with a guy like that.</p>
<p>I have dated women with kids and it is to be evaluated on a case by case basis. There is a reason why she is single with kids. It could be she is just a bad talent evaluator, and just picked the wrong guy to have kids with. OTOH, everyone is entitled to a mistake, but if I went my whole life without bringing children to a relationship, shouldn't I expect the same of my partner? Not to say I wouldn't date a single mom again, but it wouldn't be my first choice.</p>
<p>I'd say that I have no interest in dating a single mom w/ kids. Way too much involved to add a non custodial father......grandparents. Many single mothers bring the kid into the relationship too early. Dating a girl and dating a woman and her child are very different. I am not ready to be a parent and I certainly couldn't be in a relationship w/o being a willing parent now could I? I think that girls who have babies early accept their situation about dating when they get pregnant. </p>
<p>I guess this is intersting in the sense that we do have a war going on and there will be widows of soldiers who have young children. I think it is somewhat circumstance dependent.</p>
<p>Are you dating an individual or taking on responsibility for the family as well. Are you talking about going out to an occasional movie, dinner, concert, to the clubs, etc. or establishing an emotional, meaningful and ongoing relationship with someone and his/her family?</p>
<p>The term "dating" means different things to different people.</p>
<p>You bring up a good point but I don't date people that I wouldn't consider developing a relationship with. Too many available candidates w/o the baggage of a child. How could you know someone has a child and not talk about the child at least some interest.......children are a big part of someone's life.</p>
<p>I don't think I would be comfortable dating a single father, although they are less common. I would feel weird because there would be a third person added to the relationship. Especially with young children, a girlfriend/boyfriend of the parent would essentially become a surrogate parent. What happens if they break up? For me, its just too complicated.</p>
<p>Odd... I always thought that girls would be attracted to a man with a baby simply because... girls love babies and men. It's like how men (on TV) go to parks with their dogs to pick up chicks.</p>
<p>The other stereotype is that men would run away at the opposite situation simply because... it's a stereotype men run away from commitment any opportunity they have and a baby screams out commitment to them.</p>
<p>Well, those are just stereotypes.</p>
<p>Personally, I think when I'm older, it wouldn't be as much of a deal, but being in HS/college is a complete other story because there's so much going onincluding growing up!</p>