<p>“who lacks empathy as well as the motivation to change his behaviors that cause the problems he continues complaining to strangers about.”
NSM, you should know that these characteristics- an inability to “read” other persons emotions, which can be misconstrued as indicating a person has a lack of “empathy”, is a hallmark of Aspergers syndrome. Asking someone who has Aspergers to “change his behavior”, which is caused by the way the brain is hard wired [those with Aspergers are often lacking motor neurons] is like asking someone with no legs to grow a new pair!
The OP many or may not be an Aspiey, but there are many introverted, geeky, socially awkward people with hi intelligence in colleges who do have difficulty interacting socially with others because of the way their brain’s are wired. This is not an excuse, it is a reason for their difficulties.</p>