<p>I personally don’t mind. As long as they’re not annoying when it comes to those things, it’s fine.</p>
<p>I didn’t notice the thing about arranged marriage. It can vary, I guess? Like, I personally don’t want it but it works out for some people. I don’t deny the “he’s a scientist!” thing happens, but I think other things also usually influence a decision, or at least that;s been my experience.</p>
<p>^I have a lot of complaints about arranged marriages. Like, usually in cultures of arranged marriage, the whole family is evaluated even though the guy/girl is only going to marry and be with their partner. My aunt once said no to a prospective spouse for her daughter because the guy’s great-uncle converted to a different religion. Seriously, what?</p>
<p>The most irrelevant thing are are used during a person’s ‘evaluation’. I swear, my parents are going to cry for my little sister when she’s in her early 20s because how on earth is she going to find a decent, religious man when her sister wears <em>gasps</em> knee length skirts!</p>
<p>I think arranged marriage, at least in India is about the union of two families, so if there are people that you can’t stand, maybe it doesn’t make sense to get married? The thing about the uncle seems out there, for sure, but I think religion, in many areas, has a strong political and historical presence. For instance, Muslims are responsible for trashing tons of temples, forcing conversions and so forth in India. There’s still a lot of bitterness about that and I can understand why people may not like people marrying into a family where members practice that religion. But a great uncle is pretty far removed from immediate family.</p>
<p>I think values are a better way to judge a person than their everyday aesthetic choices, haha. I sometimes wear very short shorts <em>gasp</em> (that my mom let me buy) so I guess I’m even worse than you! Heh, thankfully I have no sister to ruin :P.</p>
<p>Different religion: I’m not religious, but I respect those who are, as long as they don’t try to force their beliefs on me; although, I couldn’t be with someone who wanted to force religion on our kids, whether it be through making them attend CCD, go to mass/temple/church/whatever when they didn’t want to, etc. </p>
<p>Different education: Preferably similar to my own, but as long as the person is intelligent, it doesn’t matter (hopefully more intelligent than me).</p>
<p>Different political views: I’m a liberal, and I don’t even have friends who are conservative. I also identify more with Democrats, and the only friend of mine who’s a Republican is my best friend from Kindergarten. So, they’d probably have to have similar political views as well.</p>
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<p>Your mother let you buy short shorts?! What kind of indian is she?!?!?!?!?!??!!? :O</p>
<p>Well, my families originally from pakistan and the great-uncle converted to Christianity. A third cousin of mine married a Hindu. My mom’s second cousin (younger than she) married a white person. And meanwhile, I’m gay. So basically: </p>
<p>Arranged marriages in my family from this generation on = screwed MWHAHA</p>
<p>For those of you who would marry someone outside of your religion (or if you have no religion and marry someone religious)- how would you raise the kids? What religion would they be?
Even if the kids had freedom to choose then the family would be divided…</p>
<p>^Why is a family ‘divided’ if they don’t believe the same things?</p>
<p>Shouldn’t kids always have the freedom to choose?</p>
<p>@migrane- not ■■■■■. I’m serious. I value love above most else. And you took that out of context. I also want them to value having children and at least be able to bring in a bit of money. I don’t see how wanting to fall in love with somebody who is hot constitutes being a ■■■■■.</p>
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Let the kids decide. They can be whatever they want. I’m not going to have a family that revolves around religion. In fact, in my house (where everybody else is extremely religious), it was more difficult before I told them I didn’t believe the same. It’s a lot easier for the children to be able to say and do what they believe they should be able to say and do. It’s not like you telling them about one religion for their whole life will make them that religion. They choose either way.</p>
<p>How did I take what you said out of context? I didn’t include everything else you said in your list, but that didn’t affect the meaning of what you had said. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.</p>
<p>Different Religion: i don’t have problems.</p>
<p>Education: I am not going to marry her certificates. So, not a big big problem with it. but she has to be intellectual.</p>
<p>Different political views: If she is not going to push me to agree with her political viewpoints, I am okay with it.</p>
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<p>I think some people are far too afraid of disagreement. Relationships don’t need to be divided or severed or destroyed just because the people in them don’t have the same metaphysical beliefs.</p>
<p>I would be okay with arguing with my partner about religion, as long as everyone and their views were respected.</p>
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<p>Well I apologize that you felt the need to call me a ■■■■■ for not saying something in the way you think best.</p>
<p>I will not marry a republican…</p>
<p>Migraine does hold a strong point on arranged marriages. Though some families give some freedoms to their children on whether they actually want to marry the significant other in an arranged marriage, many families are restrictive on their children’s choices. Arranged marriages in India, Pakistan, etc are a union of two families and in most cases, decision is ultimately made by the parents. Though now a days that doesn’t happen…the children decide (in some cases). So yeah my point is arranged marriage is viewed differently by different families.</p>
<p>Religion: I’m not religious by any means but if they use religion to genuinely better themselves and/or the people around them, I don’t have a problem with it.</p>
<p>Education: I’d rather marry a level-headed and intelligent middle school dropout than a college graduate who can’t think for herself.</p>
<p>Political views: I’d probably consider myself liberal, but I’m not a fan of overzealous nuts from any part of the political spectrum. Imo an open-minded conservative is better (edit: “better” in terms of who I’d rather marry) than a close-minded liberal and vice versa.</p>
<p>Religion: I’m a Christian and it is an important part of my life, so I would not want to marry a non-Christian. I have no problem being friends with non-Christians (in fact, a lot of my friends don’t believe), but when it comes to who I want to spend the rest of my life with, I’d prefer to mesh. </p>
<p>Education: I honestly don’t really care where they went to school, but I would want someone who would contribute financially to my family. I mean, I don’t need someone who gets straight A’s, but I’d like to be able to hold an intellectual conversation with my spouse. </p>
<p>Political views: Right now, I’d describe myself as a “left-leaning moderate.” I live in TX, so there are a plethora of conservatives. Depends on the person honestly. Some people treat politics like genetics, and take their views blindly from their parents. I don’t think I would honestly mind as long as: a) They can defend their views, and believe in them by themselves, not based off of their parent’s views (though, nothing’s wrong with sharing views with their parents), b) they aren’t nasty or forceful about their view, and we can debate without getting it emotional or personal, c) they aren’t too extreme (females shouldn’t be allowed to work, all should stay at home; let’s go back to segregation)</p>
<p>I’d marry a rich doctor</p>
<p>Religion: I could never marry or even date a non-christian. I want a relationship centered around Christ and while I have no problem being friends with a non-christian, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with someone that doesn’t have the same beliefs and values that I have. Christ has bought you with a price and it is not an option to give away that blood bought heart to someone who doesn’t know and love your Lord. It will cripple your spiritual development, open up a host of temptations, stifle your prayer life, make regular church going difficult, and cause massive parenting conflict if you have children.</p>
<p>Education: Their education is a complete non-factor to me but they would have to be intelligent and clever. I want someone that I can have thought-provoking and intellectual conversations with. I want them to have interesting opinions and ideas. I want us to be able to learn from each other.</p>
<p>Political Views: It doesn’t really matter to me because I am not very political though I do lean towards a certain party. I would hope that they had the same views as me to avoid conflict but as long as they didn’t shove their views down my throat, I wouldn’t care.</p>
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<p>I’d like to change my answer to this.</p>