<p>The reason I ask this question is because I am not happy at my current school, and I’m considering transferring to a state school back home…but then I’d be giving up what I’ve striven for throughout high school and the academic opportunities that are here. And I feel that my unhappiness is hurting my studies. I find it so difficult to concentrate and care about my studies when I’m so caught up with how bad I feel here.</p>
<p>For the record, not everyone at a “top” private school is miserable nor is everyone at state school happy. I know plenty of people from high school who are miserable at their state schools and plenty who are miserable at top schools and plenty who are happy at both, etc. </p>
<p>battleship2012: What is it about your school that leaves you unhappy? Have you tried using any of the resources on campus designed for this? Is it the social atmosphere? The stress?
I would suggest trying to get at the source of what the problem is first before transferring–lest you find yourself just as miserable at the school you transfer to. </p>
<p>In my family, my sister and I both attended “top” private schools(Ivy’s), different ones though. I’m really happy at mine and am really enjoying my time here. I wouldn’t dream of transferring. My sister, however, (whose personality and needs are rather different from mine, and whose life circumstances are also different), was rather miserable at hers. She transferred to another state university and graduated last Spring and considers it to have been a very good and healthy decision—and she’s doing well in the working world. She doesn’t think, and nor do I, that it would have been worth it to stick it out. It wasn’t working for her. There were other options.</p>
<p>justbreathe, thanks for your response. I realize that not everyone at a top private school is miserable, and not everyone at a state school is happy, but in my particular case, I feel that if I had went to a state school where I already would have friends, and where I would be close enough to my home to go home when I wanted to, I would be having a better time in college. Of course I couldn’t have known that I would be unhappy with my choice when I was choosing what college to go to, but in retrospect, the change was so drastic and quite frankly I probably wasn’t ready for the social challenge of going somewhere where I practically knew no one. But when the choice was between an ivy and a state school, most people would choose the ivy league school. Such is life.</p>
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<p>As of now, I’m at Fordham LC. If I can secure (yet another) student loan or decent financial aid, I’ll be going to Columbia in the fall. Hopefully it proves better as I strongly detest Fordham.</p>
<p>Yep, I remember not liking Fordham LC at all when I visited - I ended up applying to Rose Hill. Have you considered transferring to the RH campus, I have 2 friends there and they say the people are pretty friendly.</p>
<p>I thought about taking classes over there but I’m a bit bitter towards Fordham and don’t think it would be any better. If I’m stuck here next fall (which, if I don’t get that loan might happen) I think I’ll try RH.</p>
<p>I’ve heard Columbia is much better, atmosphere wise. Fordham feels like high school part two, everything about it irritates me.</p>
<p>My sister goes to Fordham LC and I have a feeling that she’s not learning anymore than I am at my SUNY school. At least literature wise anyway, as we were both reading Candide and I seemed to know as much, if not more than she did.
Education wise, it’s not worth the money. </p>
<p>How could you not enjoy the city life? I heard that there are a lot of interesting people at Fordham. I’m very surprised that you said that it’s like high school part two. </p>
<p>I imagine Fordham being like a $40,000 a year (if you have no scholarships) vacation/study abroad to NYC.</p>
<p>Why do you hate NYU, Molly? I would’ve definitely went there if I had the grades. I heard from another CC poster that NYU is full of pretentious people, which is a major turn off now that I think about it.</p>
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Fordham is a little over 50grand a year</p>
<p>^ Oops. I don’t pay the tuition, so I tend to forget lol.</p>
<p>Actually, excluding housing, it’s around $34,000.
I just looked at my tuition bill.</p>
<p>I really don’t know how much longer I can put up with this. I just feel like I cannot do this any longer. I really want to transfer but I deadlines are almost past. I’m just so frustrated right now. I can’t concentrate on schoolwork, I can’t concentrate on anything. I don’t know how how I can put up with this for 2 more years.</p>
<p>You’re preaching to choir, kid.</p>
<p>If I don’t get that financial aid or a loan, and end up having to stay at Fordham - I might go a little crazy.
It wouldn’t be so bad if every last professor didn’t behave in the same manner. I guess it’s a requirement to work there.</p>
<p>Better to voice them somewhere where they can be read (by completely anonymous people) than not to be heard at all.</p>
<p>i have a better question:
would you rather be happy at an expensive school you like, or settle for a school that gives you a full ride?</p>
<p>How would you know that you’d be happy at the full ride state school?</p>
<p>And btw, I have a full ride at the school I go to.</p>
<p>OMG… I read some of your posts and found out which school you go to. What the hell did you do to get a full ride there? There of all places! O_O </p>
<p>That’s crazy! If that was me, I would have enough happiness and high self-esteem to last me a lifetime. Seriously.</p>
<p>I’d definitely choose happiness over a full ride.</p>
<p>TA3021, that’s what I thought too, but reality is that that happiness wears off, and at the end of the day, it just doesn’t matter what school you go to if you’re miserable there.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t want to attend anywhere that I would find myself miserable. Being happy at a school ranked in top 100 is far better.</p>
<p>Those are terrible schools. The OP must be an idiot.</p>