<p>well apparently you dont know how facebook works. everyone facebooks their roomate to get an idea of what they're like. you see their interests, where they're from, their major, music their into and etc. to see how well you might get along with them. its better than coming in the first day expecting some preppy kid and end up getting some hippie.</p>
<p>My roommate isn't listed on facebook or myspace and both of my suitemates aren't listed. This can't be good.</p>
<p>Who actually reads the message with adds? Nobody, that's who.</p>
<p>Email him or send him a message on facebook. I don't think friending was a BAD idea (I definitely met my best friend because the ED people all friended each other months before anyone else got it), but it isn't foolproof. You can't analyze why he didn't email you back. A good chance is that he didn't see it.</p>
<p>dpad, you are reading WAAAAY too much into this man. I know you probably feel affronted, and I would too in that case, but holding a grudge against him or assuming he's a jerk is the WORST thing to do when you're starting college. Just remember you're starting fresh at a whole different place. There's just simply way too many differnet possibilities that led to your getting rejected as a friend, and picking the most convenient one (for you) is gonna land you in trouble. keep us posted</p>
<p>dpad, I guess it's up to me to have some perspective on this.</p>
<p>There are two possibilities: a) he rejected your Friend Req because he's an a-hole, or b) (and what likely happened) he doesn't know how to use Facebook and isn't that bright and rejected your friend request on something stupid like "I didn't know who you were" or "oh, I messed up and clicked something wrong. Sorry."</p>
<p>Guys are dumbasses, dude. I think it's probably some technical reason why he rejected your friend request, not because he's a douchebag who just rejected friending the guy he's about live with.</p>
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<p>LMAO, everyone is going to be shooting themselves in the face this weekend too, you down?</p>
<p>How dumb is this just entire thread in general. I can't believe some of you guys entertained his paranoid mind. </p>
<p>First off, WHY DO YOU CARE if he rejected you? Secondly, you're accusing him of doing EXACTLY what you are doing. "Waahhhh he didn't call me so I'm not calling him". What are you in a relationship or something? Man up you're going to college, if you are too afraid to talk to someone you're going to be living with for a year, you will absolutely have NO social life. </p>
<p>Three, for the people calling this guy a jerk, how does that make sense. For example, I usually NEVER accept requests from ANY males unless I know them IRL. There's just no point, I'm not on facebook/myspace to meet MORE I can do that ANYWHERE. Generally the second I see a guy in my inbox im already clicking deny if I don't immediately recognize their face. Some get lucky and i click their page to find its a friend from long ago. Also, anyone could be lying and saying I'm your new roommate, how do you even know he's gotten the rooming info yet? Additionally, he might just find it ridiculous that you're trying to face book him if it IS you because you both have your contact info. And finally, maybe this kid has....a LIFE and doesn't have time right now to call you. You know some people work, date, eat, and even do this small thing called living. Try it out.</p>
<p>just call him. say hey, is this "jeff", hi im "david" your roomate next year. see how he sounds and gauge him from there. if he sounds like a total a-hole telling you to never call again and go to the world down under, we've proved all the idiots here wrong. act like the facebook thing never happened.
i highly doubt "he doesnt know how to use facebook" considering he apparently already had a high school account.
also there are way too many wrong things in the above post to go through.</p>
<p><a href="http://members.tripod.com/%7ETechBabe/roommate.html%5B/url%5D">http://members.tripod.com/~TechBabe/roommate.html</a>
Listen carefully and repeat after me...
This is your holy book... live by it.... </p>
<p>have fun =]</p>
<p>Seriously.. your roommate sounds like a jerk and be cautious of him. For the first week or so just get a feel of what he is like. If he seems like a jerk and doesnt communicate or w.e. just request to switch or start lifting weights in front of him and say that you were in the wrestling team in high school or w.e. Be firm with any rules or complaints you have [ like if he throws his trash on your bed.. dont stand for it] Remember.. its your room too, your parents are paying money for your to live there so you deserve some comfort.</p>
<p>But then again, maybe he didnt recognize you.. call him or email him and then see from there.. if he still ignores you, then you know what to do. </p>
<p>good luck!</p>
<p>lol, i really like those. i dont know if its there but here's a good one i used to do on my roomate just for ****s and giggles.
when he comes back, say some girl came by looking for him and say, "oh she was blond, kinda tall, kinda cute" and he'll be like "was it ashely?" and say, "yea i think it was, you should go look for her"</p>
<p>Good post, hyakku.</p>
<p>I think a lot of people are losing track of the fact that Facebook is nothing but a website. It's not real. It doesn't make friendships, or define your friendships. All it's really good for is coordinating the friendships you already have. It's a tool that many choose to use and some choose not to, not a society. Your Facebook profile isn't you.
It's only been around for a couple of years. Facebook etiquette, so to speak, has began to develop but it's far from universal: look at the wide variation in how open people choose to make their profiles or whether people friend strangers, acquaintances, or just friends. So someone doing something on Facebook should never be read that far into it because there aren't established enough customs.</p>
<p>dpad, any updates?</p>
<p>I wouldn;t contact him again except if you really need to discuss something with him, like who is going to bring the tv, etc. You already got rejected once when you clearly stated that you were his future roommate, so I don't see why you would want bother him again. Now, that does not mean he is an indecent person, just that he doesn't want you to see his facebook page. If you do need to make arrangements, email him. Otherwise, don't bother--too bad he didn't give any reason for denying you.</p>
<p>i agree with frasifrasi, only contact them if you need to discuss important things like who's bringing what, etc. you never know, maybe they will be nicer in person.</p>
<p>i hope i get my info soon. my suitemate already contacted me via myspace and shes a sophomore and 21 years old. a little intimidating for an incoming freshman who's not even 18 yet. :-/ im really starting to get worried, but hopefully i have better luck with my roommate.</p>
<p>He did not clearly state that he was his future roomate. The subject of an add is very easily overlooked and is not a clear way of explaining who you are.</p>
<p>You NEED to talk to your roommate about who's bringing what. Several of my friends ended up with 2 (and in one case, 3!) TVs, multiple microwaves, and no fridges.</p>
<p>My roommate accepted my request on facebook. I feel so special.</p>
<p>I personally don't bring TVs or major electronics, and the school provides a mini fridge and microwave, so in this case there is no need on my part to contact my new roomate. Like I said, if you have to make these arrangements, email him.</p>
<p>-- I just bring the prime things like my brain, clothes, and computer, though : )</p>
<p>I'm sticking with doofus who's slow on the uptake. I doubt it's dpad's fault, and I doubt it's because the guy is a jerk.</p>