<p>pgpc125 - I just saw this post for the first time. I do not understand how everyone attacked you! Your daughter clearly pulled the short straw in the roommate lottery. A 19 year old with a 16 year old boyfriend, who didn’t communicate over the summer, didn’t bring what she said she would, an entire family that blew off “REQUIRED” orientation events, then rm spent all day on the phone and mom thought it was funny, and rm mom calling to get D’s cell phone number? Clearly something about rm is NOT right! The toddler room decor just fits with the rest of the picture of a kid who has been spoiled or whose parents have not realized that she is growing up. Or maybe she’s refusing to grow up, who knows? </p>
<p>I tend to agree that rm will not be in college for long.</p>
<p>If it were my d, I would hate that her college experience would start off with her having to deal with a kid who obviously has no sense of boundaries, and parents who seem determined to keep her infantilized. </p>
<p>But it sounds like your d was handling it well. Setting clear boundaries. If she did go to the RA, just to ask for advice on how to deal with rm, that would have been fine - that’s what RA’s are for.</p>
<p>I have no idea how or why other posters decided to attack you or your d’s spending choices for college - that was clearly irrelevant to the original post. Were they just bored that day and looking for someone to harass? It was way over the top, totally uncalled for, and I would have reported them to the CC moderator.</p>
<p>So what ever happened in the long run?</p>