<p>I go to a pretty good university and I live in the dorms. I've enjoyed dorm life so far, with one pretty significant exception - my roommate is ... well... crazy! =/ this might end up as a disorganized list of grievances but anyway here goes...</p>
<p>She just does the most frustrating things. First, she had a bf that lives off campus and so she's stayed with him overnight for almost the whole semester (she doesn't sleep in the room more than once or twice a week). that's fine with me because it means i have the room to myself a lot. but when she does come in, it's hell... sometimes she'll walk in at 4 or 5 in the morning on school days, slam the door, turn the lights on, sometimes even switch the TV on, and then leave without turning anything off. last Wednesday I had actually gotten to sleep early for once because i had a very important exam the next day and in she walked at 3 AM, popping popcorn, watching TV and talking on the phone. i told her i was trying to sleep and she completely ignored me. </p>
<p>She has brought men over before (yes, men other than her "boyfriend" but i figure it's really none of my business). this has happened like 3 times. I probably shouldn't care, but given that she's so discourteous to me I feel like I'm not completely wrong in expecting that she would think before having the gall to ask me to leave the room all night. </p>
<p>she wears my clothes. A LOT. i've asked her, practically begged her, to start asking before just rooting through my closet, but she won't budge. she RUINED my favorite blouse by spilling soy sauce all over it, now seriously, how does that even happen. she even gets in my drawers and goes through my jewelry. </p>
<p>she NEVER locks the door. the door stayed open the whole four days of Thanksgiving break (I know this because she left campus right after I did, and I got back before she did and the door was wide open). she'll leave for hours and hours without locking it. and we live on the ground floor next to a big study lobby so there are people from different dorms in and out all day using the bathroom, getting on elevators to go up to their rooms, etc. it's just stupid. </p>
<p>she does strange things and tries to act like we're best friends. a couple of weeks ago I was in the library studying and i got an email saying i'd been tagged in a post on FB. i looked and my roommate had posted a status saying something to the effect of "at the movies and then going to the club with mah girls xx, xx, and favorite roomie ever [my name]!" i obviously wasn't with her, and when i asked her about it the next day, she said she was hurt that i didn't value her friendship without offering any explanation as to why she had totally lied. </p>
<p>she also spreads rumors about me. she says TERRIBLE things about me to people around the dorm and i have to tell them to just ignore her. she claims it's just for fun but when I have people banging on my door to yell at me about this or that it's no laughing matter. Sometimes she'll come into the room and just start yelling at me, calling me a b<em>tch and a sl</em>t and etc. we once very nearly got in a fistfight for no reason because she was so angry. </p>
<p>this one is none of my business, but she's a total spending freak. she goes out to buy new clothes like every week. she just discards the old ones on the floor (her side of the room is COVERED in spilled food and drinks and hair and nails and clothes) and she still feels the need to take my clothes. </p>
<p>The incident that motivated me to write this, though, occurred on Thursday... I had just walked in from class, and to my horror, the door was open and my ipod, laptop and laptop charger were gone. i went crazy and turned the room upside down, asking my roommate over and over if she'd seen anything, and she very deliberately acted victimized and accused me of trying to get her in trouble. i told my RA and she said that she would sent out a mass email (which she did). i was frantic and going crazy.
AND THEN.. Friday morning, my roommate wakes me up and hands me my laptop and ipod. she told me in a very mocking voice, "this is what could happen if you don't start locking the door." turns out she had had it all along, but hid it to teach me a lesson about locking the door (which I ALWAYS, ALWAYS do; the only time I don't lock it is if I walk across the hall to the bathroom or water fountain or something.). SHE'S the one that never locks the door! I went ballistic and yelled at her (i'm a pretty mild-mannered person; it takes a LOT to get me to that point) and then she ran off crying and told the RA that i was hitting her. She made this HUGE dramatic scene bawling in the middle of the hallway and practically screaming at the top of her lungs. it was RIDICULOUS and i stormed out. practically everyone posted about it on facebook.</p>
<p>anyway, i haven't seen her since then. I've talked to the RA about it and she's siding with my roommate. i just don't know what to do. yeah, there's a procedure for changing roommates but i don't WANT to move out of my dorm or have to deal with paying the moveout fee and stuff =/ anyone have any suggestions?...consolations?</p>