<p>I never meant anything hurtful by what I said. My point is that you parents, the ones here on CC seem to care about their childrens education then the actual students do. There are a few families that I have encountered on this forum, ya know parent and child who either share a username or have different ones. When a parent cares more about college then the students do, that really crosses the line. You cant force you kid to have a high gpa or go to a top school. When you do force, you will always get negative effects. No matter what you think, or how you say it to the student, it will always be taken as forcefully. When mom comes home and over dinner asks Sarah if she has looked into University A, that is not interpreted as “oh mom must think this is good, maybe I should look into it” Instead its usually interpreted as “Mom must want me to go here, what do I do”. All it does is create stress and a state of despair for that student, they always feel as if they cant live up to mom or dad. Theirs a better way to go about this, and this is by example. </p>
<p>I don’t claim to be a expert in much of anything. Im 23 and have no true parenting experience, but I can say is that I have been a student and seen other students and how they were raised in comparison to myself and my siblings. In my experience, it was the parents who were not strict and did not force their kids that raised the best bunch. </p>
<p>So in comparison to the rate at which I see only parents here and not the actual children of those parents, I see something wrong with that and for that I say that you folks are going a bit overboard.</p>
<p>I bring up this topic, more because it hits home with a problem my HS faced. A like like such: [Push</a> to achieve tied to suicide in Asian-American women - CNN.com](<a href=“http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/05/16/asian.suicides/index.html]Push”>http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/05/16/asian.suicides/index.html) should clear up my reasons nicely. When you have kids hanging themselves in school bathrooms because of parents pushing them so much, it gets to the paint of insanity. I dont think many realize how powerful and literally a parents words are taken.</p>