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Seeing as cocky is synonymous with arrogant, this seems implausible.</p>
<p>Cocky ~= arrogant
Arrogant implies self-involved and pretentious; cocky just means that you have a self-assuredness about you (“swagger” would be an appropriate synonym).</p>
<p>Girls don’t want a bad boy, but if in the situation, they will try to fix them–although the girls will inevitably complain about how the boy isn’t up to her standards. Very few of us end up marrying those kind of guys though. As we mature, we realize that dramatic relationships aren’t sustainable and instead go for the supportive ones.</p>
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Cocky
–adjective,■■■■·i·er, ■■■■·i·est.
arrogant; pertly self-assertive; conceited</p>
<p>Alright, the deal is girls like dick (unless they like vagina). Sometimes, it’s not your dick and guys tend to blame this on “well, all girls say they want is a nice guy, but really it’s a jerk”. Same as when girls whine about the guy “not wanting a normal girl but a ho”. People are gonna like what they’re gonna like.</p>
<p>You know what generally helps though? Being really tall and handsome. I think that it doesn’t matter whether a good or bad boy, but tall and handsome gets most girls. I think the tall, handsome guys know this and don’t care about being nice since they figure no matter how they act girls tend to flock to them. Then these handsome and tall guys try giving out advice books on their “skills” saying “Yeah, be a jerk, it always works for me”. When in reality it probably won’t work for the average sized, average looking guy as well as for the handsome, tall guy.</p>
<p>Being tall and handsome is a big edge, yes, but so is having confidence and the right personality. Being a jerk probably isn’t such a good idea, but being too nice will also hurt your chances, a lot.</p>
<p>Confidence comes from being tall and handsome, so does a personality because people generally talk more to tall and handsome fellows so they usually have better people skills.</p>
<p>I do agree that “too” nice can hurt. Like, don’t follow the girl around all the time, don’t hoover and kiss up a whole lot because that will just annoy everyone. But then again, if a tall/handsome guy did all that he’d still get away with it. But that’d likely not happen since it’s just too much unnecessary work.</p>
<p>If you want to meet girls, get a job working in a bar.</p>
<p>I was a bouncer at a college bar/club and I got to meet tons of girls. They aren’t deep creatures. Give em a few drinks and a few compliments without being creepy and you’ll do fine. Don’t worry about being shutdown, for every girl that rejects you there is 5 girls standing with their friends that wish a guy would talk to them.</p>
<p>When you meet a girl, just off-set every compliment with something that will make them insecure. Something like, “Wow…you look great in that skirt, but OMG, did you see your roommate Amanda tonight? I bet ya wish you had her body, huh?”</p>
<p>Also, don’t be afraid to lower your standards. The tall, hot blondes are always well protected and have over-fed egos. Turning a guy down in front of people indulges their narcissism, don’t give them the opportunity. Instead, turn to the 6’s and 7’s of the group. They are tired of seeing the “10” get all the attention and are desperate for a guy to approach them over “her.” </p>
<p>It’s like lions in Africa, they never catch the lead-dominant zebra in the pack…they pick off the weaker, slower ones and still enjoy a good meal.</p>
<p>In fact, stay away from “packs” in general. If you see a group of 7 girls dancing, 1 wearing a birthday sash and tiera - back off and live to fight another day. My rule is never be out numbered by more than 2, so a group of 3 should be your max. If you have your sights set on a particular girl in a group, wait till she leaves the pack and goes to the bar for a drink or wait for an appropriate time to talk to her - don’t force it. </p>
<p>When I worked at the bar I always saw the most attention from girls when I threw a dude out of the place or got in a fight. So if you have a chance to show your dominance take advantage of it.</p>
<p>Remember, there is a difference between being “bad” and being an all out loser. Learn to walk that line and you’ll be pulling some grade A or A - (B+ aint bad either) booty.</p>
<p>“It’s like lions in Africa, they never catch the lead-dominant zebra in the pack…they pick off the weaker, slower ones and still enjoy a good meal.”</p>
<p>nice</p>
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<p>If a guy ever actually said this, I would slap him and walk away.</p>
<p>BeB, let’s be friends?</p>
<p>Haha, I can’t tell if he’s serious or not. I really don’t think those tips make a difference. The chick is probably just drunk and looking for some guy and look who’s hitting on her and sober!</p>
<p>yeah I feel like that would definitely get you a purse across the face</p>
<p>Women these days like being beaten. They look for a man who knows how to backhand a female. I guess to them it is somehow a sign of superior genes.</p>
<p>I feel like it’s off of that cheesy video the old guy is watching in that movie “Still Waiting”, where it’s like “you always go for the one with a tattoo on the lower back, who’s doing drugs, and has more than 4 crosses”</p>
<p>I think it’s all delivery. That line could either be great, LOLbad, or just plain funny. Teasing girls is basically my entire game. I mean, my game isn’t great, but I think teasing is good.</p>
<p>“Women these days like being beaten. They look for a man who knows how to backhand a female.”</p>
<p>^^^ Um, excuse me?</p>
<p>^ The facetious nature of that comment was pretty blatant even for the internet.</p>
<p>thanks for the advice everyone. What does “clingy” mean?
I don’t see myself as a pushover and certainly not annoying. But I just don’t get what the difference is between being mean in a flirty way and being mean in a real jerk way. I don’t want to offend anyone. </p>
<p>I think it is good advice to go after a girl that is not the most popular/hot one in a group. I’m not necessarily targeting someone who looks like a model.</p>
<p>Well, I say if you can’t tell the difference then don’t bother trying. It usually fails if you do but it’s not your natural personality.</p>
<p>Just…be yourself? If she likes you she does, if not nothing you say is gonna change that. Just be funny and nice and roll with it.</p>
<p>i think i can give an example but it ain’t very good</p>
<p>I was IMing a female friend of mine and she said she was in a suburb, followed by a “blahhh.” I happen to live in that suburb and rep it hard (not really) and responded with “pff, city slicker. that’s my hometown!”</p>
<p>It was a playful comment, not really flirtatious obviously but hopefully that gives you an idea. If I had called her “urban scum” that woulda been “mean in a real jerk way.”</p>