OP, I am sorry for this situation, but I don’t see you as totally responsible. I had some pretty weak grades in a few classes in high school…because I didn’t study enough or right. My parents exploded about them. That experience motivated me to study nonstop in college, and I did a lot better. This is a tough learning experience for your child, but it is a learning experience that can lead to a better outcome. It’s your child who needs to learn to study correctly and prioritize. Pushing your child to succeed isn’t a bad thing at all.