<p>“Someone asked is he is happy with his performance. I would say no, he is not satisfied, but he dosen’t really think it is a “problem” just the way he is. He certianly doesen’t like that he is always forgetting something, and always getting in trouble. And he dosen’t enjoy his Mom always reminding and nagging him about something! On the other hand, he is certianly not thinking there is something wrong with me, I need some sort of assistance.”</p>
<p>That was me who asked. If he doesn’t like the nagging and forgetting then this may be the way to approach it. He may be interested in talking with someone who will not “diagnose” but will help him work towards a happier smoother more successful life. This could be a coach or a sensitive therapist. The nice thing about a coach is s/he takes the parents out of the nagging role and puts the kid in the driver seat of figuring out what the problems are and how to address them. Coaching seems to succeed because the teens are envisioning what they want in life, and determining how to get it (with guidance and resources) rather than being told what to do and how to do it which leads to resistance.</p>
<p>A parent support group could be useful if you can find one in your area.</p>