<p>Thanks everyone, I definitely have some more thinking to do. And @ texaspg I do agree and think I could benefit from going OOS. But I did go to boarding school across the country for HS and have spent summers in different parts of the US. I just feel that I may need more. And @Miami I understand it’s your daughter’s story but I was hoping to get different perspectives to see the process behind making the decisions. It is always helpful (and oddly enough I found her story similar to my story). Thanks everyone! </p>
<p>“she will miss out on opportunities that might present themselves”- Please, elaborate. That was my question above, what kind of opportunites.<br>
I am not pushing anything on anybody, I am saying that people are different, what works for one is not a choice for another.
My D. is one of the most traveled persons in the world, I can guarantee you that. In addition, she is very very closely familiar with the range of very different cultures, including 3 foreign languages, that she has been using, not just studying, and she has been using them within our state as well as outside of our state, including abroad. I cannot imagine and frankly I do not know anybody else out there who is more exposed and also very closely exposed to the wide range of cultures and who has close friends from various cultures and in several cities of the USA, while having extansive travels abroad. She never ever missed those opportunites, she knows exactly what she is choosing.
Please, give details on what is going to be missed by my D. She has NO plans to apply to residencies far from our state, she was told that she will be considered a “midwest” person, and that it is a big plus while applying to several regional programs and staying in Midwest as close to her hometown is her goal #1. Seh was told that by people in very high positions, some are in charge of residencies.
I am really interest to know details of your advice in regard to what kind of opportunites my D. will miss. </p>
<p>Traveling and learning languages does not equal to studying and living in another state. It works for her to continue living in the same state for the rest of her life but not necessarily for MOST other people.</p>
<p>I would suggest your daughter leave the state for residency but it does not sound like you would like the idea.</p>
<p>She will go where she will match. We will be happy for her to match anywhere, we do not care where. We do not plan to stay in our hometown much longer anyway, we will move very far.
Medical school though is NOT the time to learn different living environments. You simply do not have any time. You have to learn how to go by without enough food, water, bathroom breaks, how to study for 14 hours straight day after day for several weeks, it is a your survivor’s skills that are tested, your physical, emotional, brain (I would add a bladder and GI) stamina, not much time for any other type of experiences. When you are on those short breaks, you want to go home and crash and sleep for 15 hours every day, again, not more of any other desires and definitely not any new experiences, plenty of many new are at Medical School, much more than average person can handle. I call ALL medical students real heroes, I do not know many others that I equal to them. Kuddos to all who are in and who are jsut starting. </p>
<p>@Pinkstuffz</p>
<p>D2’s decision was influenced by an bunch of intangibles, mostly social and support issues. (Though she will admit finances played a role too.) Things like how much upperclassmen were interested in helping out/mentoring the incoming students. Whether there was an active student community (i.e. nearby housing where most of the med students lived to maximize opportunities for socialization). How much formal academic support the administration offered to students (providing free Kaplan prep materials and subscriptions to QBank for USMLE prep). Whether the school administration was responsive to student complaints about the curriculum. </p>
<p>D2 is very social person and the sense of community among students really influenced her choice.</p>
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<p>Why is your move tied to anything your daughter will be doing? She is an adult whose choices should be independent of anything her parents will or will not do. Checking out other environments is for her benefit irrespective of your intended move. </p>
<p>I made a decision! Thanks for the advice and best of luck to everyone graduating this month (or next)!! </p>
<p>Goodluck Pinkstuffz!</p>
<p>“Why is your move tied to anything your daughter will be doing?”
-Not at all. It is tied to the time when we buy a second home and the time that we plan to retire (unless we are kicked out before). It has absolutely nothing to do with our D. In addition, her big borther has been living very far from us. So, we all end up living very far from each other, unless something interfere with this plan. Your impression is absolutely off, sorry to dissapoint. She had to be more independent than many others, she never had stay at home mom.
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Your D2 criteria are similar to my D’s. “Social” aspect of all schools were considered a lot. It is very important for some to be able to find a group of closer friends. I am glad that my D. did both within her Med. School as well as outside of school at her location. Looks like your D2 knows exactly what she wants and following her own wishes. Way to go!</p>
<p>It’s May 15! Bring on the waitlists. </p>
<p>Waitlist movement!! D got call from Wash U just now. Big decisions to be made.</p>
<p>Congratulations! </p>
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<p>WUStL is a great school with some of the nicest admins anywhere. Your D has an excellent choice in WashU Med. </p>
<p>Congrats to your D spring162.</p>
<p>Congrats to Spring 162 and her D. Great School!!</p>
<p>Decision made. Wash U it is. </p>
<p>Spring62, congratulations! I know of one student who gave up his acceptance there because his gf didn’t get in.</p>
<p>Wow limabeans, not sure how I would feel about my kid doing the same. They are soooo young still and have many struggles to get through on this path they are on. Oh well, hope all decisions work out for all involved.</p>
<p>spring, I think he went somewhere else where they both got in. Not as high ranked, but at least they aren’t hundreds of miles apart.</p>
<p>Although it was a very difficult decision, D chose her TX med school and is eager to start this fall. We went apartment shopping this week and signed her lease today (sigh). Things are starting to come together and the new phase is about to begin.</p>