I just watched Father of the Bride 3ish live on Netflix Facebook. It was great, about 25 minutes long, with a couple surprise people showing up. I got surprisingly emotional watching it, probably because son and his fiancee are also caught up in the Covid wedding issues. It is well done, timely, emotional, and a benefit for World Central Kitchen!
@sevmom Thanks…I watched the Netflix and it was so much fun!
FoB3 ish is so charming. I got teary, too. Thanks.
Here’s some background
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/09/25/movies/father-of-the-bride-the-pandemic-and-me.html
My daughter and her boyfriend went to a jeweler today. Why? Well all her friends are getting engaged and she thinks she needs a ring too. She isn’t really interested in getting married but she’s interested in having a ring.
DD2 and BF have been talking marriage, but they are working out all the financial and career challenges they now have. DD2 makes a good salary, and now 2 years after college graduation is budgeting and saving - good steps forward for her. She discussed with me today that she clearly acknowledges BF will never make as much money as she does. He is moving to another city a drive-able distance for work, but far enough for them to probably meet half way once in a while to swap dogs (they want to keep their dogs together) - DD1 has some clear periods where she has travel so the dogs need to be with him and avoid boarding charges. I told her the two cities will ‘make or break’ their relationship - she clearly believes it will help make their relationship stronger. My fear was she has been in a ‘love fog’. If she clearly can live with less and save, she may have the maturity to carry more of the financial load throughout life. Time will tell. BF is a very nice guy but didn’t grow up like DD did. She is a big catch for him and of course all of his family ‘love her’. They have to decide when and if they move on into marriage. The longer she is happy despite challenges, the more she is perhaps ready to make a big commitment with BF.
My D found a lovely dress! It is very simple crepe (sort of like Meghan Markle’s or Princess Margaret’s, but halter style with a train) but the fabric has a beautiful drape. She is wearing it with a jeweled belt and a floor length veil with a jeweled clip. She also tried on some more Bohemian style dresses that were very pretty, but she decided that as she was having a downtown/urban wedding, she would go with the simplicity.
OMG, Plan B is dead to us. lol
I grew impatient with a lack of info so I called the current venue myself, as an anonymous potential MOG, to find out how many people they are allowing under the current stage 3. They can have 75 people! That’s plenty to call it a real wedding! I confessed this afternoon to son’s FMIL, and she was so relieved, too. And so was the bride! Turns out the kids didn’t even know … the bride was too afraid to call. lol We moms were thinking that we were looking at eight people or something.
So we are all on board with moving forward and forgetting Plan B. The county is about to open up to Stage 2, which means the number could grow to 112. Not that we will choose to use the capacity, because we want to be safe, but what a relief that it can be something close to what they want.
And the kids want to have a party here later in the year for all the family and friends who don’t make it to the wedding. And they think they’ll want a BIG party a year later, but I would guess that they change their minds. Oh, and they are really hoping they have the big honeymoon this summer.
But, seriously, what a relief. We think we’ll be right about where we are in March … a step back and then a step forward.
Thought I’d share something that may give you a moment of “Thank heavens my kids aren’t like this.” I’m fine or I wouldn’t be able to relate this.
As of about a week ago, D2 had not ordered her MOH dress in the right size. 5 weeks to go- and she’s often enough hard to fit. She got one mutli-sizes too big and then that ship just stopped in the water. And the smaller sizes in that style (the generous cut) were all on long backorder. Yikes.
I can come up with multi ways to resolve this, but after some direct words to D2, stepped back. My girls are close. It would devastate D1 if, with covid and the simplified plans, her fiance now laid off, it were her sister who hampered her vision.
Supposedly, from a text last week, she now ordered it in the regular cut, a large size (they do have stock in this.) I’m holding my breath, not asking anything. It’s a lesson she needs to learn. Don’t mess with your sister’s wedding.
As I said, I’m ok. I know how to pull this off at the last minute. I think. I’m more rolling my eyes. Maybe the dress will arrive tomorrow and all will be well.
Other than that, lol, we’re pretty good to go.
Thanks for listening.
Looking forward, how much time do you have? So you have a seamstress lined up? Are they , the MOH and the bridesmaids wearing matching dresses?
Nov 7. The dresses are from Birdie Grey and I’d assume if she did order last week, it should have arrived. Nowadays, any supplier should be able to get an in-stock dress out in time. But, did she order? There may be some odd dynamic going on that she hasn’t kept me posted. Later, I’ll ask D1 if she knows.
No seamstress lined up. That’s part of the eye-rolling. She has no sense of whether it’s possible to, worst case, adapt the too-large dress. Around here, I know I’d have to beg to get last minute alterations. (I could do a fitting, but not any hemming.) And this kiddo is not here, she’s 90+ minutes away. For several reasons, she can’t get to me, anyway.
D2 has been starting to “adult,” is very +++ responsible on the job, but still likes the cocoon of avoiding some mature choices and actions. She has to handle this without me, learn a life lesson…
Friend’s son gets married tomorrow. Small indoor church wedding (plenty of room to physically distance with masks), but reception is outdoors at a farm 45 minute drive away. They have a tent, but the forecast calls for rain and a high temp of 54. I’m sad for them because I think many won’t make the trip. I hope it all blows over and warms up.
Delightful visit with D1 to the venue, to meet their rep and the Day Of Coordinator. The DoC is sharp as a tack, I am so grateful to all of you who recommended or insisted on having someone play this role.
The venue, a small historic library, is beautiful- if you like row after row of wall to ceiling shelves of books, plus the statues, busts, oil paintings. (Yes!) It turns out guests can visit the main floor, just not wander. Our event is in a lower level meeting space, also lined with books, etc.
Have not seeen evidence of D2’s dress yet. She put off sending us a pic. Fine. She says it fits perfectly in the new size. Fine.
More to say, of course, but right now just fingers crossed.
Just returned from 2000 mile round trip for nephew’s 49 person outside wedding and reception. Four long days of driving with a cooler for lunch at rest area picnic tables and breakfast and dinner in our hotel rooms en route. Weather was blessedly perfect, and my sister had made masks as favors. Crowd was inconsistent about mask wearing and distancing, so even though all events were outdoors, we felt constantly “on guard”.
Most exciting part for me was the walk with my daughter when she mentioned that she and her boyfriend of two years are planning to become engaged when she finishes grad school! So I have a couple more years to tone my arms, crunch my core, and save $ for a wedding - daughter says it will be small as they want to travel and buy a house.
It was great to see family, even socially distanced, for the first time since January but weird not to hug anyone. Now we are back to our usual routine of staying home except for weekly curbside grocery pick up and occasional restaurant takeout with the added stress of worrying for the next two weeks about possible COVID-19 exposure.
Why is it so hard for people to follow simple precautions? Many people need a lesson in kindness.
I hope the next two weeks have you feeling just fine @yauponredux - you sure went to a lot of effort to support your sister/nephew.
Ohio COVID #'s , like a good many states are climbing up again. Our Governor said yesterday that in half of our new counties rising again to “red” status the outbreaks were attributed to either weddings or funerals. With precautions and compliance in place I’ll bet this could have been reduced a good bit.
Not to damper but it makes me angry that someone like @yauponredux extended herself in time and energy only to come home and be on guard for 2 weeks!
There are other covid threads on CC. Let’s try to keep the focus here on weddings (and wedding related events). Off topic post deleted (at poster’s request).
Hard to totally ignore covid when it has certainly altered lots of wedding plans. Older son is still marrying later this month, outdoors with just a few local friends. Just this week they decided to forego the brief after ceremony champagne toast/social hour they had planned “out of an abundance of caution” , citing increased covid cases related to even smaller events. So, just a brief ceremony, which we are hoping to see via zoom.
@sevmom Apologies for any misunderstanding. Covid discussions as it relates to weddings etc. are totally appropriate here. (FWIW I have posts about the impact on my Ds wedding). A few posts started to get away from weddings (ex discussing holidays) and those would be better on another more general thread about covid.
Thanks for clarifying, @happy1!
Well, some cheerier news here. Finally the D2 BM dress pic. All is well.
D1 had D2 recommend the music (violin/cello) and in 15 mins, done. Guess D2 is more vested in this aspect. (She’s our music kid.)
I have my first alterations appt today and am going to swim in the dress, lost that much weight. Wondering if there’s some odd chance they’ll swap mine for a smaller size, make fitting it easier. It’s a shop, with stock, not an online or major dept store.
@lookingforward , so glad your D2 is so helpful. Have fun with your dress alterations!
@“Youdon’tsay” yay for venue opening up.