Sometimes, a thread (here or elsewhere) just becomes a lovely, long running conversation. That’s what I like so much about this one. We’re a bunch of parents who feel comfortable sharing our concerns and hopes. Through the mutual support, most everything has gotten to, “…it will be what it will be…and it will be wonderful, whatever it is!”
Lol, take a pair of comfy shoes. Most of all: hire a great Day Of Coordinator. They don’t need to be expensive, but need to have strong organizational skills and an inherent sense of the many bits and pieces, a can-do attitude (matched by a “will do” attitude.)
Something came up in the last 24 hours about flower arrangements on the table. The florist mentioned to me he’d stick around to move the tall, heavy arrangements by the vows to the dinner table. Um, no. The table flowers will be low, rectangular arrangements only. I didn’t say anything to him, but spoke with D1 and we agreed the DoC can deal with him on that, politely suggest where else to put those. This may seem small, but it means neither D1 nor I need to get involved with that, on the wedding day.
All along, I’ve been wondering what my fuller role (or do I mean presence?) should be. D1 is 29, has managed 85% of this on her own, should be able to celebrate parts of this without me. Eg, she and her 2 BMs, D2/MOH, and one out of towner will go to dinner on Friday without me. Fine. Long time friendships, a time for them to be them. Now I learned the air bnb has 3 bedrooms, maybe not room for me and D2. I think it’s right that she has these special friends with her. Right that she include her out of town friend who otherwise would need to get her own room. Our home is only a mile away. I can spend time with them on Friday, before they go to dinner, then show up at 9am Sat for my make-up and hair, and spend that day with them. (D2 can make her own case for sleeping on a couch or whatever.)
I get along so well with these gals, I won’t feel out of place or set aside. I just wonder if others have done it this way.