Sure hoping things change before next spring!!
@“Youdon’tsay” my friend who is a researcher and is working on a part of one vaccine said not to count on all people being able to get a vaccine by spring. He said they can’t ramp up that fast to produce enough vaccines so summer of next year looks more likely to him that the vaccine will be more available to all.
My S and DIL were talking this past weekend about when they should plan to notify their guests about the rescheduled March celebration. They are going on the assumption that the email will be a cancellation, given what’s happening right now. This is the final point to be negotiated with the venue – when can we pull the plug and be reimbursed all funds already paid. The kids are hoping they can make a decision by February 1, though I suspect the venue may make us wait until 30 days out. Either way, I have no confidence that NYS will allow an event of this size before the vaccine is readily available to anyone who wants it. And until then, I suspect most of our guests wouldn’t be interested in coming, anyway. I could hear in my S’s voice how much he was looking forward to this fancy, black tie party but even he said they would throw a formal, kick-a** anniversary party sometime in the future. They continue to amaze me with their attitude towards everything that has happened with their wedding.
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I guess I’m starting to read here. My ds is showing signs of proposing to his gf but my guess is not until May. They have been dating since the first week of freshman year and I think around her graduation would be a good time. I don’t think they would plan a wedding until the next summer due to grad school commitments for both of them. We will see! At least by then it will be a good bet that the vaccine will be fully out there and in full use. They have both mentioned weddings in the last month so I’m getting that feeling. I know my son will ask her father first because she and her family would like that and he doesn’t mind. They broke up for about a month at one point and he asked her father’s permission to start dating her again. It was done in a sweet way and everyone has been very close since. They are a very close midwestern, old fashioned family.
Our wedding, this past Sat, was beautiful. Perfect. Part of what was so pleasing was how they both relaxed in the last week. It was clear they were both ready. And, very happy. I’m also happy this proved to be the case for so many of us whose kids have gotten married during covid. 
D1 had rented an Air BnB a mile from home, for several days, 2 blocks to the venue. A historical home with lots of rooms (easy to get lost, lol.) Her BMs and one other friend came in on Fri and they did the lovely girl bonding things. A 3rd floor space was all loft and we hung out there, had our hair and makeup done in front of a big picture window. (And the weather was amazing, bright and reached the 70s- hey, it’'s November in New England.)
The venue is a historical library in our city. As they got ready to walk down the street, as college students passed, they were offering congrats, cars honked. A little thing, but in this covid time, just sweet. At 4:30, on the dot, the officiant began. It was all a nice mix of the solemnity/tradition and some relaxed elements. We all liked his family so much. The running joke was did they know what they were getting into, with us/our crew. Not to worry, they’re as nutty as we are.
Maybe 35 for the ceremony, 20 for dinner. Because this was ‘officially’ a catered event, we were allowed those numbers and everyone was cautious, wearing masks throughout, chairs distanced. But D1 had also applied for some sort of provisional ok, just in case the governor applied more stringent policy, at the last minute. After the vows, everyone hung out in the courtyard, with champagne, happy. Then dinner.
The Day Of gal was amazing and brought an assistant-- in case she went into labor! They broke up toasts in a way I’d never seen before- I thought most did them in sequence, one after another. ? Here, they had the first dance, then a toast or roast, then something else, followed by another. Etc. It worked.
In all, it was so much like a very mini version of a magazine wedding. Not really expected, though D1 had done a lot of research. It just turned out to be a very celebretory event. I do think the florist overloaded us, but I’m probably the only one. The 2 BMs (and sis/MOH) were in deep navy dresses from Birdie Grey- identical color, different styles. Despite the almost last minute snafu with D2’s dress (her delay,) they were gorgeous, none required adjustments. (And one advantage to the light material is that they were wasy to walk in.)
And guess what? My feet never hurt in those shoes and I did not trip. Yay.
What we learned. A good DoC takes so much management off the family and friends. Ours coordinated it all, including the caterer, table set up, DJ, and, of course, timing. Making sure everyone had champagne outside and drinks inside. Also, she had a master seating chart, but instead of a big sign where you look up your name/place, could direct you to one of 3 tables, then there were place cards.
There were touches D1 felt were important and worth making adjustments for. Eg, chiavari chairs. Some may remember we moved this from a much fancier, more expensive hotel site along the water. Great choice to strip down. You can get the touches you want, without the venue beng so elaborate. Or the guest list huge. Or the costs exhorbitant. That’s one of the things I remember most about other weddings on this thread. It’s the couple, their commitment, their happiness that makes the moment.
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@lookingforward congratulations to all. It sounds like a beautiful wedding.
@lookingforward Sounds absolutely perfect! Congratulations to everyone.
@lookingforward, it sounds like a magical weekend! Congratulations to all.
Congrats, @lookingforward ! Hoping you have more new things to look forward to.
Sounds wonderful! Congratulations to all!
Congrats, @lookingforward ! Sounds wonderful.
Congratulations! It sounds like the wedding was spectacular.
Sounds like a beautiful wedding. Congrats.
Congratulations and thanks for sharing, @lookingforward . Sounds like a warm, lovely wedding. So happy for your family! That weekend weather was a gift!
So friend’s son was married 11 days ago. MOB tested positive that week, mild symptoms and my friend knew this. MOB attended the wedding, 100 people, outside ceremony, inside reception (MOG said doors on either end opened about 15 feet). Little to no masking on anyone. Already 4 guests are positive. Honestly.
Not sure we can be friends much longer.
Just wow.
Where can people still have 100 people at an indoor reception?
My daughter is a bridesmaid in a wedding this weekend. The wedding was downsized to just the bridal party (which is big) and family and changed from Hawaii to California (bride and groom live in Hawaii but are from California). At the moment wedding receptions are not allowed in California, but it is at a private home. Sigh…
I’m pretty sure you can have 100 people at a wedding in Ohio still. However new rules went into effect this week:
The rules include no socializing in open congregate areas and no dancing, guests must be seated at all times, there are to be no self-serve bar areas or self-serve buffets and masks must be worn at all times except while eating and drinking.
The traditional first dance between the bride and groom and the cutting of the wedding cake are permitted. Each table must have no more than 10 people and they must all live in the same household.
I’m almost certain my hairdresser is getting married this weekend. I can only imagine how overwhelmed she must be - what a freakin mess.
I can’t imagine going to an indoor wedding right now. Or honestly, an outdoor one!
This is sad to hear of these things. . I sure hope everyone was informed about MOB before attending @dentmom4 . It seems crazy to be allowed to have any indoor event of anywhere near that size right now. Potential superspreader in the making.
I was initially very disappointed at the thought of only seeing son’s wedding last month by zoom but more and more I get why they did it the way they did it. Only about 20 local friends, outdoors, everyone masked but them and the good friend officiant for the ceremony. After the vows, even my son , bride, and officiant masked up for everyone to move to a nearby park to have a champagne toast. Son and his wife poured the champagne with their masks on! The pictures from the day are very lovely and also tell the story of how seriously they took things. No reception, that may come later. They were extra cautious and there seems to be a middle ground of smaller, socially distanced weddings like the ones we have been lucky enough to hear about here lately. The large indoor ones -just don’t get it and I would not attend .
Well, it can finally be revealed. My son got married this week!
They were tired of wondering when they could be married next year … they just wanted to be married. It was supposed to be a surprise for the parents as we were going to see them in their city starting last Monday, but when the moms started balking because of Covid concerns they 'fessed up and told us the plan two weeks ago so OF COURSE we were going to make trip. They found a beautiful little chapel on his campus and an officiant and a photographer for literally a half-hour. She elected to get a different dress, and he wore a Hawaiian wedding shirt because they still hope to have the big event at some point next year. She had bought both a tiara-type headband and a separate veil when she bought the wedding dress so she wore the tiara to this ceremony with her hair up. It was perfect. Her mom got them a bouquet and boutonniere, and we decorated the Airbnb for a little party afterward for the two families of four with a homemade Hawaiian wedding cake (the bride was born in Hawaii, hence all those connections). It was beautiful. The pics we took at the venue and their house afterward are lovely enough. I’ll be curious what the photographers comes up with! Her mom had ordered us all the appropriate face masks – mother of the groom, father of the bride, etc. Totally fun.
I truly don’t care whether they have the bigger party. I can’t believe I finally have a daughter. I love her family. It all feels right.
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